As far as I'm concerned my mother forfeited her right to lifetime care for me based on how my childhood went.
I had a difficult childhood, while its a long story, I was my mothers emotional support network, and effectively parent/spouse, from about 8 on, however when I was inconvenient for her, she pushed me out of the way. I never got to be a normal kid. The start of the break for me was when I first tried moving out at 22, it didn't go well, I asked to move home, she said no. I spent a week in my car. Eventually she relented, but I learned an important lesson, that I needed to be able to rely on myself - largely alone, that my family wouldn't be there for me if I really needed it.
I am more than happy to provide some additional financial support, however my mother has a generous pension and social security, and makes more than enough money to support herself. It's the emotional burdens where I draw the line - as a only child who already shouldered more than my fair share of emotional burdens, I'm not willing to put my life on hold again for an unknown period of time to care for my ailing mother, who by any measure is miserable to be around - or rather, specifically, goes out of her way to make me miserable.
It'd probably be different if I was not an only child, and this was a burden that could be shared among siblings, but its not, it's just me.
I had a difficult childhood, while its a long story, I was my mothers emotional support network, and effectively parent/spouse, from about 8 on, however when I was inconvenient for her, she pushed me out of the way. I never got to be a normal kid. The start of the break for me was when I first tried moving out at 22, it didn't go well, I asked to move home, she said no. I spent a week in my car. Eventually she relented, but I learned an important lesson, that I needed to be able to rely on myself - largely alone, that my family wouldn't be there for me if I really needed it.
I am more than happy to provide some additional financial support, however my mother has a generous pension and social security, and makes more than enough money to support herself. It's the emotional burdens where I draw the line - as a only child who already shouldered more than my fair share of emotional burdens, I'm not willing to put my life on hold again for an unknown period of time to care for my ailing mother, who by any measure is miserable to be around - or rather, specifically, goes out of her way to make me miserable.
It'd probably be different if I was not an only child, and this was a burden that could be shared among siblings, but its not, it's just me.