I'll take 0.1% chance of death which I (arguably) can control, over a 0.001% chance of death which I absolutely cannot control at all.
It's so clear to me. Yes, taking a plane is similar, but I only take that risk a couple of times a year.
The 0.1% (to me) is a probability number as I have some control over each event. The probability is so low that it likely never will happen.
The 0.001% number is an eventual outcome number. "Run the experiment X amount of times, and death will happen 0.001% of the time". And it's more relevant than flying as we drive so much more.
Taking a plane instead of driving is similar. You lose direct control, but it's orders of magnitude safer.
I'll take a 0.001% chance of death over a 0.1% chance every time.