If you want a code generator like this that has support for that kind of thing, https://github.com/opendoor/pggen can automatically infer these kinds of relationships based on foreign key relationships and emit slices of pointers to connect the records together in memory. It can even figure out 1-1 relationships if there is a UNIQUE index on the foreign key. There is a little mini-DSL for specifying exactly how much of the transitive closure of a given record you want to get filled in for you.
