I try to tell this to kids having FOMO right now with the housing market going crazy(same feeling people had in '06, even if the causes were different).
I bought a house young(26) and spent a good part of the next 16 years working on it. Sure, I enjoyed some of it, but much of it I did not. I did make money with the appreciation, but I also spent a lot on repairs and improvements. If I had focused on my career and my hobbies, I'd be richer and happier now. That all said, I didn't have kids. Maybe if I did I'd think it was worth it. Society puts a high value on having a home though, and much of that is bullshit. The world wants you to think owning a home will complete your life and signify your success but it is much more complicated than that.
Homes tie you down. They're fairly illiquid assets. Transactional costs are huge. Neighborhood issues can significantly affect your quality of life and net worth while remaining nearly completely outside your control.
This is experience that nobody is told when they buy a house for the first time. Not to mention being tied down. Plus like you mentioned with your career and hobbies. They're just a shackle if your not committed to the lifestyle. Hopefully things worked out in the end.
For myself, I actually worked in the mortgage industry for a few years and nothing jaded me about homeownership more. It's a monumental scam unless you're a DINK family and maybe live in a condo. That's a bit smarter but the most expensive option out of all types of living usually.
I bought a house young(26) and spent a good part of the next 16 years working on it. Sure, I enjoyed some of it, but much of it I did not. I did make money with the appreciation, but I also spent a lot on repairs and improvements. If I had focused on my career and my hobbies, I'd be richer and happier now. That all said, I didn't have kids. Maybe if I did I'd think it was worth it. Society puts a high value on having a home though, and much of that is bullshit. The world wants you to think owning a home will complete your life and signify your success but it is much more complicated than that.
Homes tie you down. They're fairly illiquid assets. Transactional costs are huge. Neighborhood issues can significantly affect your quality of life and net worth while remaining nearly completely outside your control.