On: Why do drum sets have descending toms?

[squarefoot]

As a (wannabe) prog rock drummer I prefer to damp toms a lot to reduce their decay, so that their tonal characteristics while remaining audible don't get in the way of other instruments. Jazz drummers will probably (and rightfully) disagree.

[bayindirh → squarefoot]

Sharp/dry drums with a lot of decay adds a goosebump inducing character to jazz, classical and similar genres.

A long decay from an instrument reaching to second next note, to be picked up by another musical instrument makes me giddy.

It's possible to make the same thing in rock and metal, but genre structure doesn't allow it much.

[rorykoehler → squarefoot]

As you have hinted at different styles benefit from different approaches (sounds). There is no right or wrong.