The tone of Aditya Pakki's message makes me think they would be very well served by reading 'How to Win Friends & Influence People' by Dale Carnegie.
This is obviously the complete opposite of how you should be communicating with someone in most situations let alone when you want something from them.
I have sure been there though so if anything, take this as a book recommendation for 'How to Win Friends & Influence People'.
I’ve seen this book mentioned a couple of times on HN now. I’m curious: did you learn about this book from the fourth season of the Fargo? This is where I encountered it first.
Not the person you're asking, but the book is over 80 years old and one of the best selling books of all time. Not exactly the same, but it's like asking where they heard about the Bible. It's everywhere.
I've seen the Bible mentioned a couple times now. I'm curious, did you learn about it from watching the VidAngel original series The Chosen now streaming free from their app?
I think it's just a common book to recommend people who seem to be lacking in the "social communication" department. I would know, I got it gifted to me when I was young, angsty and smug.
As others have stated it is everywhere. The title always scared me away from it a little, but then I saw it come by in the intro of Netflix’s “The Politician” and I thought I’d give it a chance. Especially after I found out how old it is.
The book is very famous - it launched the "self help" genra. I've never read it, but I've heard it is fairly shallow guide on manipulating people to get what you want out of them.
You are totally right that the title makes it seem that way, I thought so too at first. Now I am happy that I have proven myself wrong by reading it. It is more like what I’d have liked my parents had taught me about social situations and empathy. Most of the points in the book are about sincere empathy for others.
Just have a go at it, it costs less than a euro as an e-book and it read so easily that you’ll be done in no time.
This is obviously the complete opposite of how you should be communicating with someone in most situations let alone when you want something from them.
I have sure been there though so if anything, take this as a book recommendation for 'How to Win Friends & Influence People'.