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> "He regularly and repeatedly makes comments about “the dishonest law that labels sex with adolescents as ‘rape’ even if they are willing.”

I'm a gay man who is into older men.

When I was in highschool I intentionally sought out men in their 20s and 30s.

Cross generational relationships are a sexual preference and can be just as fulfilling and last just as long as any other.

Sometimes the younger person has more money and is the one paying for everything. Really. I should know. I've been that younger person. It's really just like any other relationship. We laugh, love, and have deep meaningful emotional connections.

These antiquated stereotypes of a mustache twirling abusive old pervert preying on the naive country bumpkin has to go.

The vast majority simply aren't like that. There's creeps, sure, but there's creepy people everywhere.

A 17 year old in love with a 30 year old shouldn't come with secrecy, shame and judgemental speculation. I had enough of that when I was young.

Let us emerge from the shadows. We've been here all along.

RMS is saying there shouldn't be prison sentences for love. Abuse is a relationship dynamic, not a function of the age of the participants.

Hit me up if you want to have me fired over my sexual orientation as well, email info is on my contact page. I'll mail you my manager's info.




That in Europe it's just "Monday". In my country, the legal age to consent is 16. And, a few years ago, it was... 13!!!


I would agree somewhere there is a threshold where abuse can reasonably be assumed. But abuse has to be the thing demonstrated for the crime and not merely the age of the participants.

I agree those implications sound shocking, but please read on:

When it comes to criminality, we need to stay focused on the abuse and manipulation and not be distracted by ages or any other correlative relationship. Going over the line of consent is the trespass we all agree upon.

Such hyper-vigilance will permit us to pursue the true sentiments and goals of metoo and cancel culture, to rout out systems and institutions of abuse. All kinds.

For instance, a 10 year old with a 40 year old late at night at a park sounds like a major red flag, something we should all find unacceptable.

What if it's a basketball coach waiting for a parent who's running late?

The point of that redirection story is that abuse and manipulation is what needs to be demonstrated, not just the mere existence of a relationship. Abuse can happen without sex at all.

Our immense paranoia of child sex predators has robbed people of their natural desires to nurture children. By assuming the worst is inevitable we have made the best impossible.

I know it's a high standard so let us all aim high.


OFC, bear in mind having consent low in Spain said a lot of other terms, such as if you were 14 and commited some serious crime, (murder for example), you could be jailed as an adult. That got changed a few decades ago with the "Minor's Law" and not everyone was happy because a gang composed of minors commited one of the worst crimes ever in Spain against slightly mentally challenged woman.

On the main theme, yes, the US is paranoid, and a lot of people exploiting the average fear from the American: the market and the consumering society.




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