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I'm thinking in the back of my head: go figure out what you want, and then come back when I can actually be helpful. But what I tell her is this:

Sounds good. I'll let you know if I hear of anything.

And I won't. She won't pop into my head again.

I know you need to let people figure out their lives on their own, but if nobody is blunt with this person what chance does she have of moving past this? Shouldn't he just have said what he was thinking in the back of his head?




Yep. You're totally right. Contacting her now...


Totally agree. What she needs is guidance and he could have provided it to her with an honest opinion. Why not speak your mind?


I agree. He gave up way too easily with her and then places the blame on her.

If someone is seeking guidance from you, then guide them. If you can't, tell them why. If you can but aren't willing, then don't offer guidance.




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