"lording" was a bit strong, I just couldn't think of better words to describe it.
You clearly seem to want me to do or feel "something". In the other thread you talk about things like "the decent thing to do", "showing empathy", and so on.
My question was, why. What's it to you. As I said, I don't know the woman with the spoons, and I also don't play down her predicament.
So why do you want me to behave in a certain way? That's "lording", for lack of a better word. You want to determine how other people have to behave.
No, I don't want you to feel something. I just think if you think the way you describe it, it's not very empathic and also not very thoughtful. And I wanted to tell you that in an attempt to give you another perspective on what padolsey wrote. I can live with you not being empathic or thoughtful. I just failed to give you another in my mind morally and intellectually superior perspective. I wanted to give it to you for free :)
You seem to have a problem with me thinking that about you. When I try to explain my perspective, you seem to try to dismiss my arguments by making up ways I might not be empathic myself etc.
You constantly ask "What is the point?" Why do you think the woman wrote about her spoon theory? What is her point? Do you really think padolsey wrote the comment on relativistic thinking to play thought police?
You don't want anything from me, yet you accuse me of not being emphatic. Or you just want to help me to communicate better, but then, how about reading other people's comments without prejudice?
The correct way to show empathy to you seems to be to show pity or say "oh my god it is so bad, I could never understand it, because I have it undeservedly so much better than you", or something along those lines?
"You constantly ask "What is the point?" Why do you think the woman wrote about her spoon theory? What is her point? Do you really think padolsey wrote the comment on relativistic thinking to play thought police?"
Indeed, I asked myself the question, I think it is a valid one. I thought her description was interesting and I therefore upvoted it. But I also resented her for the "you are all so clueless and could never understand how hard it is for me" vibes. To be honest, I get some "identity politics" vibes from that, it reminds me of the "white people can never know how bad it is for black people" or "men can never know how bad it is for women" nonsense, boiling down to "I'm so special". I don't like it also because it is so self-defeating. The spoon woman seems to think everybody else has unlimited spoons, which is of course not true.
And the relativistic thinking comment - I don't know? Maybe he wants us to be aware at all times, and make everything we have our privileged access to, also accessible to people with severe illnesses? Why did he make the comment?
> You don't want anything from me, yet you accuse me of not being emphatic.
So what? Isn't some dissent normal in a discussion. Not being emphatic is not the end of the world.
> how about reading other people's comments without prejudice?
I try to.
> Indeed, I asked myself the question, I think it is a valid one. I thought her description was interesting and I therefore upvoted it. But I also resented her for the "you are all so clueless and could never understand how hard it is for me" vibes. To be honest, I get some "identity politics" vibes from that,
So I don't feel those vibes. I think it's a wrong impression and a sign of you reading it without good faith.
> it reminds me of the "white people can never know how bad it is for black people" or "men can never know how bad it is for women" nonsense, boiling down to "I'm so special". I don't like it also because it is so self-defeating.
It's not nonsense. It's the other way around too. But it's not boiling down to "I'm so special". The question is what do we do with this information, that there are experiences that differ from our own sometimes much more, sometimes much less. You seem to see a fight here that I don't see.
> The spoon woman seems to think everybody else has unlimited spoons, which is of course not true.
To her it seems to be unlimited which is very telling.
You clearly seem to want me to do or feel "something". In the other thread you talk about things like "the decent thing to do", "showing empathy", and so on.
My question was, why. What's it to you. As I said, I don't know the woman with the spoons, and I also don't play down her predicament.
So why do you want me to behave in a certain way? That's "lording", for lack of a better word. You want to determine how other people have to behave.