>And for some reason the arrogant, disobedient, oddly-shaped person is the only one noticing it.
I got very lucky that my first job is a place where this kind of behavior is not only allowed, but gets me treated like a rockstar. Given how people write about it being received at other firms (apathy at best, punishment more likely), I'm terrified to ever leave.
Or actually do, but only after you notice you're not moving forward.
I'm at my 8th role, never lasted more than two years in one and got fired a few times in my career - in most cases because I tried (and failed) to be flexible, obedient and not be the source of any trouble.
I got very lucky that my first job is a place where this kind of behavior is not only allowed, but gets me treated like a rockstar. Given how people write about it being received at other firms (apathy at best, punishment more likely), I'm terrified to ever leave.