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That makes a lot more sense. I always pictured it as dinner first, then the movie, or just the movie itself, which never made sense.

Still, how long could a conversation after the movie about the movie even last? "Yeah I liked it, it was funny when that side character said X, and it was cool when plot twist Y happened." 5 minutes later you're back where you were unless you're both film buffs and do a whole critique of it.

I prefer date activities where you can talk about them as you do them. Even bowling sounds more fun than a movie date, to me. But maybe that's just me.




"Wasn't it funny when charter X did Y?"

"Yeah! That reminds me of a time I did Y! Let me tell you how that happened"

Movies are a great shared cultural experience that can be a good jumping off point for a conversation.


I feel like movie&dinner is low effort and more for married and longer term couples looking for an excuse to get out of the house or that have a large interest in the actual movie being shown rather than in the first 3 or so dates.

I 100% agree around actual activities something to really do while it happens. Bowling is honestly pretty good as you can go as fast as you want or as slow as you want. Good conversation going on just keep talking. Conversation slows throw a few while you think of a new topic or one comes up organically. Bonus points as no one expect you to be any good.


I think you're correct, but also it's a great "training date" when you're first starting off in your dating career. You don't have to interact much, and just being by someone you like holding hands can be enough when you're 16 years old.

I wouldn't make a movie my go-to first or third date in my 20's though, as it's not really accomplishing the goal of getting to know someone and finding a mate.

Now that I'm married? Dinner and a movie sounds pretty awesome...




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