In this article, I am struck by how closely PG is echoing the developmental theory of Harvard psychologist Robert Keegan, which I first learned of from this sequence of blog posts on how to be an adult[0]. The good news: with some work we can move from the great majority of adults and have a separate identity, making our own rules (35% of the population). The bad news: only 1% of us reach the final stage of adult development, where we hold many identities and embrace paradox.
"We grow by moving more and more of what is unseen and unexamined in the way we understand the world (those things that are SUBJECT) to a place where they can be examined, questioned and changed (where they become OBJECT)."
According to Keegan, these are the most important ways to move toward stage 5 development:
* Understanding our self: Constant awareness and humility
* Sharing our self: Honest, real conversations with people we trust
* Transcending our self: Experiment with self-transcendent experiences
"We grow by moving more and more of what is unseen and unexamined in the way we understand the world (those things that are SUBJECT) to a place where they can be examined, questioned and changed (where they become OBJECT)."
According to Keegan, these are the most important ways to move toward stage 5 development:
* Understanding our self: Constant awareness and humility
* Sharing our self: Honest, real conversations with people we trust
* Transcending our self: Experiment with self-transcendent experiences
[0] https://medium.com/@NataliMorad/part-3-how-to-be-an-adult-ke...
[1] diagram of stages 3 through 5: https://miro.medium.com/max/875/1*QKt0kDlG-S65Oz-LBiGNQg.png