Why so sensitive? Seriously, when someone criticises your work, do you listen to what they say or do you just listen to their tone of voice?
If all you do is listen to the tone, then YOUR WORK WILL SUFFER. Because if someone comes up to you and says, "you dick! What the fuck were you thinking putting that double dereference there?? There's no way it could ever work!"
If you stop listening after, "you dick! What the fuck were you thinking..." then you will miss out on learning something that you should know. The person is angry BECAUSE you have been stupid. Yes, that sucks, and perhaps they should learn to control their temper. But you can't do that for them. What you CAN do is be less stupid next time!
Well, I always listen to the tone of voice. This gives me a good indication of whether they're worth listening to or not.
Usually, people speaking with a scornful tone of voice (or the written equivalent) are more venting than they are providing useful information. There's no need to pay too much attention to whatever they have to say, because if it's a big deal they'll say it again once they've calmed down.
I've noticed that when programming computers there are very few problems that can be fixed by behaving like a dick. And those that can be fixed by behaving like a dick, can also be fixed whilst behaving in a more gentlemanly fashion. The rest can be left unsolved, politely. There's really no reason not to do this.
I listen to what they say. I just lose respect for the person if they act like a bit of an idiot while delivering it. This is not helpful if the person is meant to be in a supervisory\managerial role.
Confusing downvote, I honestly can't see what could be disagreeable or controversial about this comment (particularly given it's inflammatory parent comment) but never mind!
If all you do is listen to the tone, then YOUR WORK WILL SUFFER. Because if someone comes up to you and says, "you dick! What the fuck were you thinking putting that double dereference there?? There's no way it could ever work!"
If you stop listening after, "you dick! What the fuck were you thinking..." then you will miss out on learning something that you should know. The person is angry BECAUSE you have been stupid. Yes, that sucks, and perhaps they should learn to control their temper. But you can't do that for them. What you CAN do is be less stupid next time!