>Sometimes even after you forgive someone you're still going to continue to live in hurt.
No, that would not be forgiveness. Forgiveness is you overcoming the negative emotion.
>other times you can move on and not forgive someone and not be hurt anymore.
That would be forgiveness.
>Simply I don't associate myself with that person anymore
That would be a lack of reconciliation. Reconciliation is not a requirement of forgiveness.
What you are describing is either excusing or pardoning.
>Moving on is part of and a prerequisite for forgiveness, but not the other way around.
There are multiple ways to move on, including forgetting.
I am generally a descriptivist. I acknowledge there is a second definition of forgiveness that is incompatible and mutually exclusive with the first, and that many people commonly use the word that way. That second definition however does not invalidate the concept of Forgiveness, with a capital F. It doesn't erase the first meaning of the world. I am not going to call it "misuse of a word" but the word is being used extremely loosely to describe other concepts that have other defined words. In this case, precision and clarity are required in conversation, and using definition two to have a conversation about the meaning of the concept in definition one, becomes a circular argument.
No, that would not be forgiveness. Forgiveness is you overcoming the negative emotion.
>other times you can move on and not forgive someone and not be hurt anymore.
That would be forgiveness.
>Simply I don't associate myself with that person anymore
That would be a lack of reconciliation. Reconciliation is not a requirement of forgiveness.
What you are describing is either excusing or pardoning.
>Moving on is part of and a prerequisite for forgiveness, but not the other way around.
There are multiple ways to move on, including forgetting.
I am generally a descriptivist. I acknowledge there is a second definition of forgiveness that is incompatible and mutually exclusive with the first, and that many people commonly use the word that way. That second definition however does not invalidate the concept of Forgiveness, with a capital F. It doesn't erase the first meaning of the world. I am not going to call it "misuse of a word" but the word is being used extremely loosely to describe other concepts that have other defined words. In this case, precision and clarity are required in conversation, and using definition two to have a conversation about the meaning of the concept in definition one, becomes a circular argument.