Forgiveness as discussed here is an internal emotional matter and easy to make a case for. Forgiveness becomes a public and contentious issue when the injured party is under pressure to once more trust the offender, to do business with them, to "let them back into their lives," etc. That's what the arguments are about, and that's when this idea of forgiveness gets perverted into "gee, you must be suffering spiritually under all that hatred and resentment towards Bob, why don't you let it go and let Bob borrow your car for his bachelor party road trip."
