> That this is an instinctual urge that we are required to suppress?
That doesn't mean it's proper to whip your ding dong out in professional settings (aside from the professional settings that require it). Are you going to fight that fight? For the same reason, it is not proper to hit on people in professional settings.
> Can we acknowledge the fact that most men would be ecstatic to be hit on by a woman or two at a conference?
Yes, we can acknowledge that this could be flattering if it happened rarely. Can we also acknowledge that getting hit on at nearly every professional event would be extremely tiresome?
> That forcing men to change their behavior significantly to accommodate for women in male spaces may in fact place unequal strain on men?
There it is. A machine learning conference is not a male space. A men's bathroom is a male space.
That doesn't mean it's proper to whip your ding dong out in professional settings (aside from the professional settings that require it). Are you going to fight that fight? For the same reason, it is not proper to hit on people in professional settings.
> Can we acknowledge the fact that most men would be ecstatic to be hit on by a woman or two at a conference?
Yes, we can acknowledge that this could be flattering if it happened rarely. Can we also acknowledge that getting hit on at nearly every professional event would be extremely tiresome?
> That forcing men to change their behavior significantly to accommodate for women in male spaces may in fact place unequal strain on men?
There it is. A machine learning conference is not a male space. A men's bathroom is a male space.