Especially young children aren't always able to explain.
Like a kid will come and say "I need a stick", and the parent is "what, you'll just hit someone", and refuse it. And the kid will cry.
Later you discover the kid needs to make a school project, with a stick, and without the stick they simply did not do the project, and failed.
And they were just not able to explain this to you.
(This isn't a real story, but it's similar to the kind of thing that happens.)
You also get "I need a dollar", and you give it to them, and later discover they had some kind of bet going with another kid (which you would have never approved of), and needed the dollar to pay the other kid.
Upshot: You have to ask the kid what's up, there is a lot of knowledge they have that you don't.
Like a kid will come and say "I need a stick", and the parent is "what, you'll just hit someone", and refuse it. And the kid will cry.
Later you discover the kid needs to make a school project, with a stick, and without the stick they simply did not do the project, and failed.
And they were just not able to explain this to you.
(This isn't a real story, but it's similar to the kind of thing that happens.)
You also get "I need a dollar", and you give it to them, and later discover they had some kind of bet going with another kid (which you would have never approved of), and needed the dollar to pay the other kid.
Upshot: You have to ask the kid what's up, there is a lot of knowledge they have that you don't.