I personally cannot give up myself for a relationship. Meeting with friends sure, but marriage and kids? I'd rather have a hobby. I know there is the whole mindset that "it's different when they're your kids" however I only see having kids as the purpose of having an heir...which I recognize is absurdly outdated of a view.
For myself though, that is honestly the sole reason I'd want a kid. Financially I'm not in a place where I could honestly bring a kid into this world better off than myself. I like pets, but they take up a large portion of my day. I can't imagine what a kid does.
Honestly, things and views change over time and especially when you approach your late 30's. I never thought about having kids before,but things just fell into place just right and am much happier now with my life. But once again, I would have never thought about this, say, 5 years ago. Be open minded and don't be afraid (but do find someone who you absolutely trust though).
For myself though, that is honestly the sole reason I'd want a kid. Financially I'm not in a place where I could honestly bring a kid into this world better off than myself. I like pets, but they take up a large portion of my day. I can't imagine what a kid does.