i think the tl;dr here is that we have a bunch of tech debt, and we’re not working on the things that you think we should be working on, and that we undervalue your input and should delegate to you rather than discussing specifics.
i’m afraid that nobody is going to delegate to you, but you are welcome to contribute via concrete spec proposals, which are assessed based on merits (and whose review is far from dominated by me; if they were my own proposals might move along faster than they do). if the spec process is too slow and doesn’t work for you, then feel free to spell out the proposal however you like.
Who am I to submit a proposal to fix fundamental problems in your company? That's called consulting. You just raised an 8 million dollar Series A you are soliciting me to work for you for free, in the leaf comments of a Hacker News thread? Are you for real?
I volunteered at least three solid examples of fundamental indecisions that have unambiguously cost your investors alone millions of dollars over several funding rounds; lest I mention also cost every poor soul that has volunteered their free time in the name of FOSS -- an ethically ambiguous embrace by you at best; every one of them is locked into the cost of your missteps.
I have clearly linked these indecisions to real-world outcomes. It's all history by now. The foundations of state resolution weren't in place when you built Communities/Groups so you didn't use the matrix chatroom; you built an entirely new inferior HTTP protocol without any state or replication whatsoever over several months. Now that you finally prioritized fixing that underlying problem with rooms there's a need to replace and spec an actual Groups system. In the meantime nobody can develop Matrix Groups into their software, not my server, not clients like Ditto, etc, because you tell everyone not to. You're going to overhaul the whole thing. You're doing them a favor by saving them that wasted effort. But Synapse and Riot use Groups and Matrix promotes it on matrix.org; still there's been no serious visible progress toward groups-as-rooms.
This is why Matrix is indeed a de facto centralized system. Let's not even get into issues in this system where every server trusts matrix.org for cryptographic keys. Matrix is really centralized around you.
In the end nobody is working with you. I have the only third-party implementation of this stack. Nobody is working with me either, but that's called the transitive property.
You have some time to think about this. I would say until the next recession hits. Then this is over. The way you do things won't survive that.
i’m afraid that nobody is going to delegate to you, but you are welcome to contribute via concrete spec proposals, which are assessed based on merits (and whose review is far from dominated by me; if they were my own proposals might move along faster than they do). if the spec process is too slow and doesn’t work for you, then feel free to spell out the proposal however you like.