> don't think you can even ask your employer about this
I wonder how much of that is in our own minds, though - my boss is a pretty cool Chinese guy, and I tell him I need time off to deal with something, he says no problem, let me know when you’re back. But I still feel like I’m being silently judged - not just by him, but by everybody.
> But I still feel like I’m being silently judged - not just by him, but by everybody.
Does "everybody" include you, too, by the way? Are you actually just judging yourself for taking time off, and assuming everyone else is?
Do you judge others for taking time off too?
I don't have an agenda here, really, except the point out that this being "in our own minds" is not that different from "assumptions that come from our culture"...
I wonder how much of that is in our own minds, though - my boss is a pretty cool Chinese guy, and I tell him I need time off to deal with something, he says no problem, let me know when you’re back. But I still feel like I’m being silently judged - not just by him, but by everybody.