This is better than most of these "tips for a good life" lists, but I feel like it too misses a certain level of overarching consistency. Almost every item has a situation in which the "correct" thing to do is exactly the opposite of what is recommended. How do you make that decision?
As with all of these lists, I always wonder whether this is what the author thinks now, after attaining success, or if these principles are what they relied on during the process? Or perhaps even what they wish they did now that they have more time to think about it?
A commenter below mentions "life is not an optimization problem" -- but isn't it? You're fundamentally making decisions every day that balance your constraints against your goals, interests, and passions. If you just let your life go by without making some real decisions, won't you just regret what you didn't do later?
The reason you have to optimize like this is because a lot of these principles, should you attempt to leverage them to make a decision, provide contradictory advice. Part of this is due to the subjective terms (ie, definitions of extreme vary), but if you're going to use this list as a template or an inspiration, eventually you have to resolve what these things mean to you. I certainly haven't figured that all out and don't expect I ever will; I don't see how anyone could without having experienced all possible things.
All that being said, there are definitely some items that are clearly beneficial and don't put you in decision making paralysis, such as 18 or 24. But there are others that leave me more confused, such as "Don't waste time" or "Don't worry so much". How am I to know if an activity is time wasted until after I do it or if worrying is excessive or warning me about a real issue?
Finally, if you don't identify as neurotypical, what items apply, don't apply, or apply differently? How do you live your life if what everyone else says to do doesn't (seem to) work for you?
Not trashing Sam's thoughts here for sure, but I've read dozens of these things and never came away without having more questions then when I started.
There is something about these lists that just doesnt work. They absolutely dont help for me. I have thought they do at many times in my life but reading one again I’m like, ”what?”. This isnt even remotely actionable for me, its just some mad random philosophical collection. It LOOKS good but it lacks something very fundamental. I wish I could see exactly what it is thats missing. I have kind of found what that is now in my own life, if just barely, but I’m not clear enough about it to verbalise it even for myself. Maybe when I can completely see it I can write a blog post of my own :)
I would say this list would not have helped the author at all in accomplishing whatever it is that he has. I may be wrong but I have really tried to believe it :)
In my experience, different elements of the same content jumps out at different people depending on our respective experiences and circumstances. If you're lonely right now (I've been there many times and they were always the worst periods of my life. it sucks), I hope you find a way out of it. Cheers.
yeah but you know when you want to buy a car and you start seeing them everywhere? it's probably not #1 but your reticular activation system is honed for it by your desire for the car.
That's something you hear from people who have already achieved some success. But when you're trying to make enough money to live comfortable and also want to have a social life, it IS an optimization problem.
It's a satisficing problem to make enough money to support your life. But that problem itself is just one part of life, and life is life, not an optimization problem, or indeed any kind of problem to be solved.
I think you should categorize them into:
1. Most important
2. Important
3. Not important
It's a long list, they're mostly meaningful. I feel some are subjective to personal opinions.
No, he didn’t give the source. Confucius have books attributed to him, a source would include the book and a precise location. It’s seems indeed misattributed.
For example: « The people may be made to follow a path of action, but they may not be made to understand it. » Analects, VIII, 9. [1]
Also Confucius didn’t speak nor write English, which didn’t exist at the the time, so it’s better to give the translator name when there is various interpretations. (James Legge in this case).
As with all of these lists, I always wonder whether this is what the author thinks now, after attaining success, or if these principles are what they relied on during the process? Or perhaps even what they wish they did now that they have more time to think about it?
A commenter below mentions "life is not an optimization problem" -- but isn't it? You're fundamentally making decisions every day that balance your constraints against your goals, interests, and passions. If you just let your life go by without making some real decisions, won't you just regret what you didn't do later?
The reason you have to optimize like this is because a lot of these principles, should you attempt to leverage them to make a decision, provide contradictory advice. Part of this is due to the subjective terms (ie, definitions of extreme vary), but if you're going to use this list as a template or an inspiration, eventually you have to resolve what these things mean to you. I certainly haven't figured that all out and don't expect I ever will; I don't see how anyone could without having experienced all possible things.
All that being said, there are definitely some items that are clearly beneficial and don't put you in decision making paralysis, such as 18 or 24. But there are others that leave me more confused, such as "Don't waste time" or "Don't worry so much". How am I to know if an activity is time wasted until after I do it or if worrying is excessive or warning me about a real issue?
Finally, if you don't identify as neurotypical, what items apply, don't apply, or apply differently? How do you live your life if what everyone else says to do doesn't (seem to) work for you?
Not trashing Sam's thoughts here for sure, but I've read dozens of these things and never came away without having more questions then when I started.