The thing I take away from these discussions is that the military is covering for a greater failing of our own civilian governments which constantly refuse to do their job in terms of diplomacy. Instead, we just build bigger sticks in place of more cleverly employed carrots as it were. If we were rational actors we'd employ economic measures which would be many times more effective than an atomic bomb. But as I said, that's assuming we were rational actors.
You are welcome to reject it, the reality is that you haven't mentioned which superpower isn't based on their military might. Until then no amount of indignant postering is going to change that fact.