This question has huge cultural variation. I think you need to specify the cultural region first.
Globally, in some places it's expected a boss micromanages everything, and in other places that's considered a sign of ineptitude as leader.
Within a smaller area, say, Europe you still get huge variation from egalitarian north to more hierarchial areas which affect quite a lot of things.
But, in the most general sense:
- is the person polite and respective? In any culture being 'bossy' and abusive is not a sweet character trait, it's a fault.
- does the person allow you to fail and grow?
- does the person listen to your suggestions and act on them?
- does the person give you honest feedback?
- does the person have your back? I.e. can you trust that politically they are on your side when dealing with the rest of the org?
- is the person honest?
Most of these are characterizations of what a regular well mannered person is. I suppose there are two types of bad bosses: the insecure one who would like to avoid all responsobility and negative interactions at all costs, who don't want to 'rock the boat' no matter what, and the bossy bosses who enjoy their position in the hierarchy and act like it in any way possible.
But, a good manager does not
need to be:
* warm and caring
* charismatic
* become your close friend - you are colleagues and professionals
* send you holiday greetings (unless that's considered a serious affront in your culture)
* same sex as you
* same culture as you
* old or young
* probably other things that you expect in a friendship but since being friends is not needed they don't matter
Globally, in some places it's expected a boss micromanages everything, and in other places that's considered a sign of ineptitude as leader.
Within a smaller area, say, Europe you still get huge variation from egalitarian north to more hierarchial areas which affect quite a lot of things.
But, in the most general sense:
- is the person polite and respective? In any culture being 'bossy' and abusive is not a sweet character trait, it's a fault.
- does the person allow you to fail and grow?
- does the person listen to your suggestions and act on them?
- does the person give you honest feedback?
- does the person have your back? I.e. can you trust that politically they are on your side when dealing with the rest of the org?
- is the person honest?
Most of these are characterizations of what a regular well mannered person is. I suppose there are two types of bad bosses: the insecure one who would like to avoid all responsobility and negative interactions at all costs, who don't want to 'rock the boat' no matter what, and the bossy bosses who enjoy their position in the hierarchy and act like it in any way possible.
But, a good manager does not need to be:
* warm and caring
* charismatic
* become your close friend - you are colleagues and professionals
* send you holiday greetings (unless that's considered a serious affront in your culture)
* same sex as you
* same culture as you
* old or young
* probably other things that you expect in a friendship but since being friends is not needed they don't matter