I think a lot of salaried Google employees have family members too.
If a woman is promoted over a man in the name of gender equality, are his three daughters better off because of the new equality? Are "women" better off?
I don't see how that is relevant. We should not take into account the size of dependant family members. In our field, our jobs should be flexible enough to accommodate anyone, with paid leave, sick leave, flexible schedules. We should also end gender/race/etc discrimination, and that means being more proactive about getting our culture to change, which often means having some affirmation action in order to break the cycle.
the issue is when do you stop that affirmative action. and if you pay lower level women engineers more to offset male managers pay and reduce your gender pay gap than I think you're doing it wrong. and this pushes people to the far right. I've seen it countless of times