Another way of thinking about this is to ask about things that benefit the other person.
It gets complicated, because I might assign a utility of greater than $8 for a cab ride, if it appeared that I was helping a person that fit a particular stereotype of people I want to help. However, I think lying was probably taking that example too far.
The point here is not to get rejected, it just gives you a place to stop. The point here is to learn how to talk to people more than rejection.
You're iterating approaches until you build a set of rules on what works and what doesn't.
For me, I found something like this useful. I never aimed for rejection, I just aimed to be more and more social.
I like your sentiment. The thing is, it's a lot easier to shoot for a concrete goal "get rejected" than for a fuzzy one "be more social". Also, you don't know what your true limits are until you hit them. I think she's going for it in the right way (asking for things you want and not being cruel).
- a 30 day rejection therapy survivor. =)
It gets complicated, because I might assign a utility of greater than $8 for a cab ride, if it appeared that I was helping a person that fit a particular stereotype of people I want to help. However, I think lying was probably taking that example too far.
The point here is not to get rejected, it just gives you a place to stop. The point here is to learn how to talk to people more than rejection.
You're iterating approaches until you build a set of rules on what works and what doesn't.
For me, I found something like this useful. I never aimed for rejection, I just aimed to be more and more social.