On: How to Get Kids to Do Chores: Does the Maya Method...

[paulie_a]

I really don't understand the necessity for tactics and reverse psychology etc with children. Attempting to be their friend is a major mistake. The parent is the authority figure. Become friends when they are in their twenties.

[Buldak → paulie_a]

I guess I don't see having a loving relationship with one's kids as a matter of "tactics."

[badcede → Buldak]

Parents can love their kids without being their buddy. In fact, the buddy thing often comes from the parent's own unmet need for connection, and that's stressful for the kid. Parents and children are not peers.

[aperrien → badcede]

Parents and young children are not peers. Parents need to understand that their role changes as the child grows older.

[ramblerman → Buldak]

authority and boundaries are not at odds to a loving relationship with a minor.