Nice notes. I think the ‘other community’ notion can be thrown out, though, in favor of the anthropologist approach.
I have been practicing engaging with people who are culturally extremely different from me and learned the anthropologist approach works great when introduced with some humility. The other party gets curious and ideally asks the important questions themselves. Instead of a debate, it becomes more like fixing a car or computer together.
Yes, 'other community' questions imply binary division on issue. I think this questions were proposed to a mediator between the debating parties to try to move conversation into more productive direction. This questions aren't that useful when you start a conversation and can frame it not as a debate.
I have been practicing engaging with people who are culturally extremely different from me and learned the anthropologist approach works great when introduced with some humility. The other party gets curious and ideally asks the important questions themselves. Instead of a debate, it becomes more like fixing a car or computer together.