What is wrong with self confidence? In software engineering there are lots of ways to build solutions to problems, most of the cons of a design are not foreseen and become evident in future life of the product. Therefore, to convince a team of your idea/direction/design/solution I consider self confidence a prerequisite.
In my experience self-confidence is a core attribute of a leader, lacking this means you doubt yourself or are uncomfortable owning your idea. If you cannot own your idea how do you expect the rest of your team or company to own it?
Not OP but I think some people feel that if someone doesn’t have confidence in an idea they probably haven’t through it through. And if someone doesn’t have the drive to push an idea through, they won’t have the drive to push the plan through.
I don’t really agree, but I sort of understand the Darwinism of it.
In an organization where management isn’t good at supporting contributors, it’s probably a good indicator actually. In an organization with strong support structures, you can use good ideas from people who aren’t natural leaders. But organizations who can really support ideas originating from those people are rare.
