Meet a specialist a few times, there is a thin line between feeling and being depressed and it's better to know that you are not sick. Also, telling someone who is not your friend your current state of mind is a great way to make it more clear for you and see what are your problems.
Other than that? From your question the main thing would be to stop thinking about if you will be successful, as it is not a great way to be successful. Like happiness, successfulness is not a state you reach once and for all. You can be happy at work and depressed at home, successful at your gym while still not finding the right person on Tinder.
From this, here are three personal suggestions:
- Do not only focus on work. Being successful with your friends, your family, at sports, at learning (e.g. a new language), also matters. If you are stuck at work, always have a second area where you can progress during your free time. Doing sports and learning a new language are great activities because you cannot be stuck if you actually put effort in it, and then you can share (that matters so much) with buddies you see every week at your gym or online (e.g. on Reddit).
- Write down your core values and ambitions and put them somewhere you can read them every day. I have a few post-its right in front of me right now, written 6 months ago, and they affect my life in a positive way.
- Make sure that even your shittiest days have good moments by design. E.g. I have chosen my flat so that I have to walk through a park twice a day, and even when I am not going well I still see dogs and kids enjoying life on my way from and to work. It motivates me a lot, those few minutes where I don't think about me and my problems but just enjoy the fact that things are already quite good. It makes me inspired and confident which is utterly important to be successful.
Awesome tips! I especially like your last one -- that's something I've been trying to do in my life as well. My current goal is to shape my living room into a really nice, cozy place: comfy chairs, bookshelves, nice speakers for music, soft lights, etc. So even when I have a bad day, I'll sit down on the couch in a place that I truly enjoy. I guess that's one of those "little things" in life people always advise us to enjoy :)
Other than that? From your question the main thing would be to stop thinking about if you will be successful, as it is not a great way to be successful. Like happiness, successfulness is not a state you reach once and for all. You can be happy at work and depressed at home, successful at your gym while still not finding the right person on Tinder.
From this, here are three personal suggestions:
- Do not only focus on work. Being successful with your friends, your family, at sports, at learning (e.g. a new language), also matters. If you are stuck at work, always have a second area where you can progress during your free time. Doing sports and learning a new language are great activities because you cannot be stuck if you actually put effort in it, and then you can share (that matters so much) with buddies you see every week at your gym or online (e.g. on Reddit).
- Write down your core values and ambitions and put them somewhere you can read them every day. I have a few post-its right in front of me right now, written 6 months ago, and they affect my life in a positive way.
- Make sure that even your shittiest days have good moments by design. E.g. I have chosen my flat so that I have to walk through a park twice a day, and even when I am not going well I still see dogs and kids enjoying life on my way from and to work. It motivates me a lot, those few minutes where I don't think about me and my problems but just enjoy the fact that things are already quite good. It makes me inspired and confident which is utterly important to be successful.
Good luck!