Related beef: Apple wants me to update something on MacOS, and the pops a notification with the options "Install Now" and "Details" - meaning "Yes" or "Tell me more!"
I think they tried that, and found fewer people were updating.
No solution is perfect for everybody. There are tradeoffs. If you read between the lines you can see that in this tradeoff, they are optimizing for getting more people to stay up to date. Which has many benefits which arguably outweigh the annoyance you experience.
What about "No" and "Not right now"?