Is that really a thing? My father is japanese and I grew up in Brazil. I don't think my lack of fluency in japanese was due to any fear from my parents - my parents spoke japanese at home and even had me attend nihongakkou (japanese classes). But it's very hard to develop real fluency without a community. My cousins had always been more fluent due to being involved in a karaoke community - something my family wasn't. My mother was born in Brazil too, and spoke japanese fluently as a child because she was raised in a isolated japanese farming community where many people couldn't speak portuguese.
Even now, with my kids, it's been far easier for them to pick up mandarin (my wife's mother tongue), since until a few months ago, their grandparents lived with us and spoke mandarin exclusively, and since the community where we lived was predominantly chinese (read: there are chinese supermarkets, there are chinese books in the library, and most classmates in their school are 1st/2nd-gen chinese). Compared to that, it's been a lot harder to get them to learn portuguese, since I'm literally the only person around them who speaks it.
Wow, you have a truly unique mix of languages in your family! :)
I thought about this a little more, and yes, community did help me develop my mother tongue a lot. There were the parents who exclusively spoke the language, but I would frequently visit my grandparents, who would also speak it. And they would take me to visit other members of the clan, who would also speak that. Perhaps it is a diversity of people speaking the language that gives one a certain amount of fluency?
I learned Hindi because it is the national language and my peers in school usually conversed in it. English was what most books were written in and it was the language of instruction. So it seemed very natural to be fluent in multiple languages.
Is that really a thing? My father is japanese and I grew up in Brazil. I don't think my lack of fluency in japanese was due to any fear from my parents - my parents spoke japanese at home and even had me attend nihongakkou (japanese classes). But it's very hard to develop real fluency without a community. My cousins had always been more fluent due to being involved in a karaoke community - something my family wasn't. My mother was born in Brazil too, and spoke japanese fluently as a child because she was raised in a isolated japanese farming community where many people couldn't speak portuguese.
Even now, with my kids, it's been far easier for them to pick up mandarin (my wife's mother tongue), since until a few months ago, their grandparents lived with us and spoke mandarin exclusively, and since the community where we lived was predominantly chinese (read: there are chinese supermarkets, there are chinese books in the library, and most classmates in their school are 1st/2nd-gen chinese). Compared to that, it's been a lot harder to get them to learn portuguese, since I'm literally the only person around them who speaks it.