Divorce has been considered but I still think it is not the best option. I am a very patient and understanding person, at least, IMHO. Our children are happy and well adjusted. I think a divorce would be bad for all parties involved although maybe least bad for me.
To me, it seems the situation is manageable, especially now that I better understand what is going on. The suggestions I've received make me think I should try couples therapy.
You love this person. You’re already going to give them second chances and take any way out you can find. I don’t need to tell you to do that. All I can tell you is that once you are clear of a borderline’s sphere of influence and emotional manipulation, you will wonder why you put up with it for so long.
To me, it seems the situation is manageable, especially now that I better understand what is going on. The suggestions I've received make me think I should try couples therapy.