I hope you work during your commute so you don't have to be away from family for 3 + 8
(Or more) hours. That means basically working the whole day all week, seeing your family only on weekends. I can't imagine what kind of comp someone would want for that (effectively permanent 55 hour weeks).
My wife has never worked because she did not have a career established when we decided to have kids. Allowing her to stay home is one of my proudest accomplishments (and it has done wonders for our kids).
I am home every night to spend a few hours with my kids, and I read to them every night before bed.
I spend all day on the weekends with them.
Sure I would love a shorter commute, as I said, I am in a non technical, and not in as high demand profession as many on here.
This is what a regular person goes through Hackernews. Keep that in consideration the next time you feel like complaining.
I don't mean to say you are making poor choices, I meant to say I hope you are well compensated for it. And it saddens me that we still have to be making this (11-12h workday) as a perhaps rational choice. It's a failure in infrastructure, city planning, labor laws, ...
People fought really hard to get to 5 day/40h work weeks. Seems we lost a bit of momentum after that.
