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Ask HN: What's your most interesting life goal currently?
150 points by lionhearted on July 8, 2010 | hide | past | favorite | 415 comments
Bonus points: What's some roadblocks or bottlenecks you've identified in the process?

Even more bonus points: Try to help someone else in the thread with their goals, especially clearing out those roadblocks and bottlenecks.




I want to leave mommy's house and start living as a "digital nomad", moving from country to country every few months as I want. I want to know the world a little better.

The most obvious roadblock is making money along the way. My plan is to do it by launching a small web product, blogging about the travel, working as a local on countries where I'm allowed to, and doing some freelance programming work.

I have at least one year to save some money and get started working on these ideas. I'm sure it will not be easy, but I want give it a try :)


I spent nov/dec 09 in thailand trying to do the digital nomad thing. I was travelling while studying though, not working for money. Few things to consider:

(1) Peace and quiet costs money. You may find it difficult to work if you stay anywhere that the backpacker crowd congregates.

(2) The longer you stay somewhere the cheaper it gets. An example from my experience - I spent a month in chaing mai in northern thailand where I rented an apartment. Per night it would have cost £18 if I was staying for a few days. Staying a month meant they gave me a tenancy agreement and it worked out as about £8 p/night plus electricity which was about £15 for the month.

You might want to try spending a few nights at different youth hostels in the city you intend to stay, then find an apartment for a month or two in the area you like the most.

(3) Food is both massively over-priced and pretty crap if you buy it in the hotel or nearby restaurants to where you are staying. Try and go further afield to eat where the locals do. Don't be put off by street food - it's good and cheap.

(4) Take plenty of time to just relax and go with the flow. try and put yourself out there and make friends. Avoid tourists attractions and guide books. I went to thailand intending to do exactly this but somehow didn't quite let myself go as much as I should have done. I've regretted it since.

Above all, actually go and do it. Most people who say they want to never really do.

I'm currently trying to build myself a money making web app that will allow me to get back on the road too. Good luck :)


Just to answer on point 1), some of the Greek Islands, it's really pretty easy to get away from the touristy spots. My dad does this, and always seems to luck into finding quiet and peaceful places. Just have the will to get away from the commercialized areas that are easy to get locked into if you value shops and eateries that speak English.


I will second your advice about peace and quiet. I was a nomad in San Francisco for a little while and cut it short by getting an apartment.

It was fun, but it was difficult to live cheaply and work in a quiet place.


eating what the locals eat, beware of endemics. If you're in rural India, do not drink the tea sold at road-side carts.


But once you get past the first round of stomach churning illness that food and tea is great! It's usually all I eat when I visit family in India. I haven't gotten sick from road-side food for the last 6 trips back.


I'm doing the same. Have you read Life Nomadic? The guy who wrote it did exactly what you're aspiring to do and he seemed to do alright for himself.

I'm building up my programming skills and saving up 2 year's worth of money (as well as paying off any outstanding debts) before embarking on this grand adventure.

by the way of advices, I guess I can only say just keep a tight lid on your wallet; spend it only on necessities, like food, shelter, and bills.


Nice! Yes, I have read it. Life Nomadic is what convinced me to do it for real. [for those who haven't, http://tynan.net/life-nomadic]

Since I could take a very long time to save two years worth of money, I'll just save enough to get started in some low-cost country (something like 3~5 months in South America or Asia) and focus on building something that can generate some passive income.

Thanks for the advices. Stick to it, and maybe we meet on the road :)


2 years worth of money is how much in this case? 30,000$-ish?


In my case, it's about $20,000. $30,000 would enable you to live very comfortably while abroad, I would think. I work at a lowly data-entry night shift job which explains why I make abysmal wages, and also I'm paying for college for the next 2 years. At graduation, I'm aiming for $15,000-20,000 saved up by then.


Depends on where 'abroad' is. If you're coming to Europe it's not much. Also don't underestimate how much COL has risen across the world the last couple of years. Yes you can still live cheap in the countryside of China or Angola, but the 'connected' places across the world aren't that cheap any more.


awesome. i did this for 2y (www.digitalnomad.com) and am building a webapp to enable me to do this again. the easiest way to do it is to find a nice freelance gig that pays the bills.

building a webapp will probably take you longer - getting the word out can be tough, and growth can be slow. but ultimately it's more scalable - you'll be earning money (in theory) while you're out exploring your new surroundings.

some quick tips from my experience: * rent an apt with good broadband. it's worth it to be able to plug in from your home to work instead of tracking down a close, open cafe with reliable broadband. hostels are noisy.

* buy icebreaker clothing - expensive but totally worth it. they don't smell. i've had the same 5 t-shirts for the past 2.5 years. merino wool is the best fabric known to the digital nomad.

* pay off your debt before you leave. it gives you flexibility and cuts down on stress.

* don't take more than a carry-on. you can always buy stuff at your destination.

* make time to see the region of the world you're staying in. i found it hard to balance this with enjoying the city where i'm living.

* enjoy the solitude and be selfish with your time. you'll probably have no obligations to anyone when you move somewhere. relish this - ultimate control over your time is a true luxury. use it wisely (see next bullet)

* before moving somewhere, figure out what you want to do there (learn the language? meet locals? go heads-down on a webapp? see the country? etc). then focus on the things you want to do knowing you're not trying to do it all. you can always come back.

* don't forget to improvise, deviate from your schedule / goals, jump on opportunities that come up, and go with the flow.

so excited for you - you're going to have a phenomenal time! drop me a line if you have any questions - blog at reemer dot com.


I haven't tried this but it sounds relevant: http://www.couchsurfing.org/


I'm not sure that it's my most interesting, but I want to someday make robotic fireflies.

I'm about to leave the East Coast to go to Stanford, and I don't want to live in a firefly-free world. I thought about trying to import them and have them breed, but apparently most species like humidity and standing water, which the Bay Area isn't too long on. I'm also not sure if they could find stuff to eat out West.

So robots are the logical solution. I realize it's going to be really hard to make something that small that's light enough to fly that blinks a light, has enough power to go for more than a few minutes, and can have the logic I'd like it to have. (In a perfect world, I'd like it to randomly roam campus for a few hours and then come back to where I launched them from.)

Also, my friend who's into robotics tells me that the US government has put a lot of money into robotic insects (for spying?) and not really gotten anywhere.

Nonetheless, someday I hope to make this happen, even if it doesn't quite have all of the features that it has in my mind.


> I thought about trying to import them and have them breed, but apparently most species like humidity and standing water...

Thank you for not doing that. The last person to have an idea like this introduced those god damn Starlings to North America. Mice came here in the same fashion (i.e. human intervention).


If you ever get a chance, watch this movie: http://www.badmovies.org/movies/canetoads/


And let's not forget mongeese in Hawaii started out as just 8 little critters on a boat 130 years ago. The population is estimated to be in the millions now.


...another logical solution could be breeding/genetic engineering a strain that would enjoy the environment out here. That would be a fun project, actually =)


I grew up in Illinois and live in Los Angeles now, so I miss fireflies badly.

Would you be willing to give up the complexity of the original organism for the function you enjoy? Basically they hover there and emit a soft pulse. To get this functionality we might not need all of the extra crap in firefly anatomy, just a rough approximation.

"All we need" is to create some hovering device (a tiny helicopter) affixed to a tiny LED with an oscillating dimmer. We can make a big one first affixed to a wire and then start miniaturizing it.

If you want to try this out I'm down to help out. I miss fireflies so bad :/ Side note: I know jack shit about robotics but this sounds like a fun way to learn.


Umm... Just a thought. Why not use those tiny uC for that. You can get pwm to dim LED (and that too randomly). The only problem is that every motor I can think of, which would enable it to fly would make it to heavy (or I have all the principle of mechanics wrong).


Hey, cool, you're coming to Stanford? I'm class of 13. We should meet up sometime.


...and goldfish!


The google codejam occurs about once a year ( http://code.google.com/codejam ). If you make it past the qualification round and the first round, and you place in the top 500 of the second round, then you get a codejam tshirt. (This year, I placed around 1300, which is good, but not good enough!)

Getting that tshirt is my goal - a nice, tangible way to symbolize the massive amount of algorithmic things that I'm attempting to learn. A year ago, I couldn't solve a single problem in round 2.

Practicing for this sort of thing is a lot of fun. Programming competitions offer bite-sized questions to think about, and I believe that solving these types of questions really helps my coding style. If you don't write the best, most straightforward program to solve the problem, then you're going to run into costly bugs.


Have you heard of TopCoder ( http://www.topcoder.com/tc ) ? They run several algorithm competitions like this every month.


Yeah. I've been practicing on topcoder and another, lesser known site, called codeforces.


Codeforces is run by this dude [http://petr-mitrichev.blogspot.com/] who is the #1 ranked algorithms programmer on TC. Pretty cool!


I'm interested in this sort of competition, but honestly, I don't know enough to even begin. What do you recommend to someone who'd like to learn enough to participate in these competitions?


Hey, cool. I know just how to answer this question.

The absolute best resource for competitions - well, that I've found so far - is a little website called train.usaco.org . It gives you a ton of practice, starting out easy and growing slowly more difficult, but it always helps you along the way. It's for high school students, but don't let that trick you into thinking it's easy. It's preparation for the IOI, probably one of the hardest coding competitions in the world.

The websites topcoder.com and codeforces.com host weekly programming competitions. These are great practice as well to see how you stand and where you can improve. I signed up for both and added them to my calendar.

Topcoder also has a wealth of old problems - somewthing on the order of a few thousand. These are great for speed trials. Plus, you can check other coder's solutions to see how they solved certain things. One of the best ways to learn new tactics is to browse through the code of people who solved a problem faster than you. I've picked up some amazing tricks this way.

The uva online judge and sphere online judge have literally thousands of problems to solve. I can't say as much about them, since I haven't really delved too deeply into the problemsets on those websites yet - I've mostly stuck to usaco for now.

You'll come to value a straightforward approach over using language tricks, especially things that you don't fully understand. If you don't know exactly what your code is doing, debugging (and you will debug it if you don't understand it) becomes a nightmare.

I would recommend learning C++. As much as HN tirades against it, it's definitely the fastest language, and it's really not all that bad once you know your way around. Codeforces allows for python, but I've had problems with solutions that take too long sometimes :(

Email me at johnfn at gee mail dot com. I'm always looking for people to compete with, and I would be glad to provide hints and tricks if you run into problems :)


Yay, code jam was fun! I meant to do it the last two years, but didn't notice at the right time of year. But in 2010, I did remember.

What are your roadblocks?


I'm planning to identify a suitable candidate to get married to, and who is genetically appropriate enough to give me good quality kids, then convince this person to marry me and carry my child, within the next year.

Difficult, but I assume interesting.


My Advice:

1) Accept the person that you are, and learn to love that person. If you don't accept who you are and love yourself, others will have a hard time following suit.

2) Do the things you love. In doing so, you're likely to meet others who share the same interests.

3) Stop worrying about whether you'll ever find someone. When you do this, you project a sense of desperation, and others can pick up on this.


Great advice! I stopped trying to get dates, and focused on enjoying various activities in life. During that time I had more dates than I ever previously had. Doing something you love leads to happiness, and people seem to generally be attracted to happy people.

Also, why the tight time frame? You don't get married to become happy, you get married because you're already happy.


Great advice, and totally agree.

On a more practical level, try OkCupid.com. Seriously, I've been so impressed with that site. If match.com is like myspace, okcupid.com is like facebook. High quality, smart people. The girls actually write you back. I'm averaging about 2 dates a month from OkCupid right now.

Also, the site is just a well designed and fun web app, so I can appreciate it on that level.


Seconded. Great site.

I haven't used any other dating sites, so I have no proper basis for comparison, but I've been very satisfied with the site, from matching system, search options, etc.

Bottom line: I ended up meeting my current girlfriend there and things are going very, very well with her. Anecdotal evidence, yes, but I hope it complements the nuggets of awesomeness you'll find on OKTrends (http://blog.okcupid.com).


OkCupid is great because the women are super easy. But I'm not sure those are the ones you want to marry. However, I guess given the marriage choice between frigid and easy I would pick easy. Just be sure to get tested, and maybe don't ask about things you don't really want to know.


As a supplement to 2: make sure you are regularly meeting and talking to women, if you are not already perfectly comfortable doing so. As for worrying, definitely avoid it as long as you're doing the above.


Step 0: Get adopted by Indian parents.

Step 1: sit back and relax ;)


I was shocked to discover how often that occurs with families, even in the north america.

A friend of mine is having a difficult time convincing his parents and hers that he has found his own partner - even though they would be very suitable candidates for an arranged marriage.


The Indian parents living in NA are still carrying their "culture" from 1960s (or whenever they left India) on their backs. Parents in India, esp in Cities, are open to "love marriages", as long as you don't deviate too much in terms of caste, language, social status, educational qualification and economic status :) . Yes, all that matters.

Indians do not marry for love. Love is what happens afterwards.


My advice: Don't tell them that on the first date.


Previously on News.YC:

"Optimizing your wife

If a man can expect to meet exactly N eligible women in his life, what strategy should he use to maximize his chances of choosing the very best one?"

http://www.mathpages.com/home/kmath018/kmath018.htm

Just curious, are you attempting to quantitatively rank the candidates in a spreadsheet, especially the intangibles like 'as potential mother'?


I know it's all in jest, but there is a lot of "me" and "my" in there. Does this prospective partner not have any ownership over the relationship and/or kids?


Why the rush? It's not like you're gonna be impotent at age 40 or something. The pressure to "do or die" in one year only is likely to jeopardize your effort... unless you date single, childless 40 year old women. But what self-respecting man would do such a thing when there are so many younger, hotter women?


  carry my child
If they're a woman, they're a lesbian. I'm pretty sure men can't bear children.


As common wisdom goes, children are created through an act by one male and one female human, and subsequently carry about 50% of each partner's core DNA and 100% of the female partner's mitochondrial DNA.

As a result, neither egocentrical males nor lesbians can bear children by themselves, even though artificial insemination and foster mothers may make it easy to live in the illusion that it's a possibility. (Or were you implying that the backward model of gender roles that is expressed in "carry my child" would be sure to drive any sane woman away unless the OP is a lesbian woman, because lesbian women can get away with chauvinistic opinions without raising any red flags?)

On the other hand, yes, his or her wife may be perfectly able to carry his or her existing child around if he or she is a single parent with a sore back.


"[T]o bear" means "to give birth" in common parlance.

So lesbians can certainly bear children by themselves, but men, the vast majority of which have no wombs, cannot.

Citation: #3 http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/bear

And while you may consider yourself witty, I feel I must point out that in the context in which I was using it, "to carry" a child refers to the state of being pregnant with it. Citation: #6 http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/carry Yet again, something the wombless may have trouble with.


Lesbians can certainly bear children by themselves, just as any woman could. By that point, it does not matter (for the biological notion of conception) if that woman is lesbian, heterosexual, asexual, or anything else.

As opposed to that, the mindset of getting a partner for the sole purpose of having a family, while certainly more often found with those with non-womb reproductive organs, can probably be found with both males and females and in either case is sure to be appalling to the partner (or to other people at large).

While I strongly agree with your basic point, I'm not sure I like the way you make that point.

In my understanding, both the OP and yourself implicitly talk about the whole parenting affair and not just getting pregnant with a child, at which point the social faculty of being a good parent becomes more relevant compared to biological disposition.


If an egg from Woman A gets fertilized and implanted into Woman B, then one lesbian can be carrying her lesbian partner's baby.

It would be difficult to find one who would agree to this arrangement, though.


Says alot about HN that this reply hasn't been downvoted more.


If you want to hear pretty lies, go watch Sex and the City. It's well known that 40 year old women are almost infertile. And their pregnancies tend to be riskier. I didn't make the rules, so don't shoot the messenger.

Show me a man starting a family with a 40 year old, and I will show you a man without options.


Why would women date you at 40 when they could go for the "younger, hotter" model?


No one is talking about dating. We're talking about starting a family, which is an entirely different bag of cookies. Wake the f*ck up.

Assuming that women and men are the same, have the same goals, and obey the same rules is an immensely stupid mistake to make, one that could be avoided by observing the real world social dynamics, and one that only clueless feminists such as yourself make.


Why so hostile? Assuming that all women and all men obey the same rules is also an immensely stupid mistake to make. Not all of us are micro-optimising assholes - some of us actually care about the people that we choose to start a family with.


pretty lies

Well, somebody's been reading his Roissy.


You going to be split-testing?


He'll definitely be using genetic algorithms.


Before he tries that, he may have to divide and conquer.


choose as much exotic race as possible with highest possible iq + looks

Such as if you are White I suggest a good looking Indian girl who is pursuing PhD in CS or some such


Based on your theory of genetic difference, this isn't necessarily sound advice. "White" and "Indian" are not distinct genetic groups . The genetic distance between a Swede and a Czech (both white) is bigger than the distance between a "white" southern european and someone from northern india.


From personal experience, let's just say dating an Indian girl as a white man is non-trivial. (Assuming Indian means from-India, not just Indian descent.)


care to explain?


The more genetically distinct your spouse is from your self the better will your kids be.

At the same time you must look out for IQ and Looks which are quite a bit genetically dependant


The more genetically distinct your spouse is from your self the better will your kids be.

Any evidence for this? (Once you get past marrying siblings and maybe cousins?)


You should watch "The Invention of Lying." I think you'll like it. :)


That was a terrible movie. I'm sorry. It started out good, but then just went on and on and on. Why would you subject someone else to it?



John Nash?


I am getting married next year. we are merging two divorced families (with both have kids and this will be a Brady Bunch size family).

My goal is to make it work. We are doing pre-marriage counseling, talking openly, pushing myself to grow, practicing patience and acceptance, and everything I can.

It is a huge challenge, but it is completely worth it.

My secondary goal is to stop working in tech and focus on my retail business (which is profitable and ready to grow).


Get admitted to a PhD in CS at Stanford next cycle.

Bottleneck: At my age and with no formal education in CS and poor academic records, getting an admission is next to impossible by conventional wisdom.

But the challenge is what makes it interesting :-).

PS: If anyone has any data/anecdotes/advice on "impossible" PhD admissions, I'd be glad to hear it (either here or my email is in the profile).


At the risk of discouraging you, have a look at the applicant profiles people post up on some of the grad school forum sites. In general, I have to say I have seen very little evidence of longshot admissions. The people who get in to MIT, Stanford, and Berkeley CS (et al) almost invariably have a stellar transcripts & scores, platinum refs, research experience, and very frequently a few papers and an NSF or NDSEG to boot.

If you are really serious about this, I would say that your best bet is to start making inroads into the field by first getting a masters at a lesser school. There you would be able to demonstrate that you are capable of doing well in grad level courses, which will be a serious question mark on your application given your poor grades. If you are lucky and work hard, you may also be able to publish & network. Especially at the top schools, academia is extremely insidery and knowing people counts for more than you might expect. At least, this has been my experience, and I am trying to do something very similar in a closely-related field (math).

Last, I see it all the time that people get hung up on gaining admission to the best schools. Why Stanford? Getting to rub shoulders with the leaders of the field would, admittedly, be awesome--but you should remember that there are many less selective departments which could afford you a solid and rewarding PhD experience. In my completely un-scientific estimation, 90% of your success or failure grad will be due intrinsic factors--intelligence, work ethic, communication skills, and so forth. The other 10% will come from your surroundings. Don't get so hung up on the latter that you lose sight of the former. Or, more simply: it's possible for you to be a successful PhD student and academic without going to Stanford.


All good advice (up voted), but I really am swinging for the fences here. I don't want a masters or PhD at a lesser school . Doing quite well without one.

"I see it all the time that people get hung up on gaining admission to the best schools. Why Stanford? "

I am not "hung up" on it in the sense that if I don't get in that is quite all right. I have zero ego attached to any academic credentials. As you rightly point out the odds are that I'll fail and that is OK.

This is an attempted "hack" somewhat akin to climbing Everest via the hardest route possible. If the goal is just to stand on top of Everest there are better ways. There are easier routes up the mountain (like getting the Masters first from a lesser school, then going to Stanford for the PhD etc etc), but the fun (for me, I am a crazy guy) is in doing the hardest thing possible. There are other things I could do like come over on an H1 visa first then attend some classes while working at some MegaCorp, ace those, get to know some professors etc etc, but I don't want to do it that way.

I don't mind if I never get a PhD. I am not doing it to increase my self worth or career opportunities. (I have plenty of both, and the time and effort put into a PhD can probably be used to build a half dozen startups instead if money were the goal). In Computer Science anyone with a laptop, Ubuntu, a network connection and an ACM/IEEE membership can do any kind of research he wants to, though that would be a very barebones approach.

This is just a(n artificially high) bar I am trying to jump over. Jumping over a bar is intrinsically pointless. The fun is in the attempt.

I understand if people think it is a crazy idea. I just put it down here because the OP asked for "interesting" goals. Crazy ideas are often interesting!

"At the risk of discouraging you, have a look at the applicant profiles people post up on some of the grad school forum sites. "

I am not discouraged at all. I personally know very "average" people who have PhDs from MIT/Stanford. The idea that every MIT/Stanford grad is some kind of technical/research superman is a myth. There is a bell curve there, and I am confident I am not on the lower end of that curve. I don't have the right "background" to get in but I've never let that stop me from trying anything so why start now?

So sure, by conventional thinking I have next to no chance. On the other hand, a scientist I work with (who supervises several PhD's at IISc and IITs) said to me "I've never seen anyone level up as fast as you do. You understand [his specialization in Machine Learning] more deeply and have more ideas than any of my students. If you ever want to do a PhD and want a recommendation, ask me".

I plan to. ;-)


Well then, more power to you & best of luck. I'm curious--if accepted would you even bother going? It sounds like merely getting in would satisfy all of your goals.


"I'm curious--if accepted would you even bother going? "

Yes I would. There are some ultra awesome professors there I'd love to work with. And the atmsphere and facilities at Stanford would be much better (than my present situation in Bangalore) to do research. My focus wouold be to work with and learn from them, not to become a fulltime academic.

If I get my PhD I'd like to be the author of a few awesome research papers and have no intention of getting into the tenure track rat race and so on.

"It sounds like merely getting in would satisfy all of your goals."

My immediate goal is to get and admission. Why should meeting that goal satisfy all my goals?

Once you jump over one bar you reset it higher and try again.

If I were to get admitted, I'd set a goal of doing some stunning research, ace the classes and so on (which would be quite a challenge given the calibre of my fellow students).


Thats a very good perspective (& attitude) to have. Go for it. My best wishes!!


The department usually matriculates a few students each year that aren't traditional applicants (great grades, research, recommendations, etc.). For example, there are a few students with little to no CS experience at all. The odds are definitely against you, but it's certainly possible. Good luck.


"The odds are definitely against you, but it's certainly possible. "

I've worked against the odds all my life (people were always telling me I couldn't do this or that) so this is very encouraging!

Thank You :-).


You might find the blog post linked below encouraging. It was written by a professor at UIUC.

http://3dpancakes.typepad.com/ernie/2005/03/re_phd_with_low....

My advice is think about what you really want to do, and why you want to do it. If you want to do good research then it makes sense to apply to highly ranked PhD programs because they will give you a support system to help you learn. If you just want to own a PhD from a specific school, then it will be harder to get in, harder to finish, and less meaningful when you're done.

My advice for your specific goal is to somehow get involved with a professor's research. Preferably someone who will be recognized by admission committees. Their letter will help a lot. This might involve getting an MS at the highest-ranked school you can get admitted to. Sadly, those programs are not usually funded (as opposed to American PhD programs).


I will send you mail once I reach home. Directly Stanford PhD would be difficult maybe you can get an MS from a second tier college and then go for a PhD. Anyway it would be interesting to talk


Thank You. All help/advice appreciated. It is the middle of the night here (India). So I'll probably reply when I wake up.


I am Indian (student) as well! I did my undergrad in chemical engineering and had 8 K.T.s yet I could mange to get wait listed at MIT Media Lab (my group didn't take anyone that year due to lack of funds). Currently I am at Cornell.


Dude, Are you doing a Ph.D or MS ? I am looking to apply to a PhD for coming Fall. Can't afford a unfunded MS.


sadly unfunded masters, the MIT course was funded but my target group didn't had any funds.

Also since my undergrad was in a different field and I had to take pre req's I couldn't get direct funding for CS degree.

I transferred to Cornell after a year at less reputed university which gave me a bit of scholarship, I could have transferred to RPI where i had good chance of funding but I chose Cornell.


Masters or PhD?


as far as I understand it, it's pretty much not going to happen without a solid reference from a professor willing to work with you.

it would be easier if you had research experience in other fields and slaughtered the GRE general & subject...

but yeah stanford is not exactly hurting for applicants


"it's pretty much not going to happen without a solid reference from a professor willing to work with you."

Working on it (and on getting research exp) :-)

"slaughtered the GRE general & subject"

I have an almost perfect score on the GRE general (800/800 Verbal 790/800 Quant, 6/6 writing) . Taking the subject exams later this year. Not too worried about that either , but I heard these aren't of much value and research /recommendations are all that count. So I am working on those now.

Ah well you work with what you have :). Along with many brilliant dedicated people, I also see people with rather mediocre research and recommendations (but perfect academic scores etc) get in (and then not do anything particularly brilliant/drop out etc), so I suspect there might be a (small) chance. If every one who got in thoroughly outclassed me I would have no hope.

We'll see. :-)


nice scores, I think they do matter a bit more for you if you don't have a cs undergrad... if you get the professor to recommend you, you should have a chance so gluck!

I'd like to follow that path, but for now I'll be chasing $$$


"but for now I'll be chasing $$$"

Good Luck!

If I ever make millions I am going to establish a scholarship for "wildcard" admissions at the best schools. You can only use the scholarship to fund "imperfect" candidates!


I'm trying to figure out: (1) how much time a newborn will actually demand from me and my wife, and (2) how we will fit in all the things we have decided must continue to happen (e.g. me still having a fulltime job, both of us getting regular exercise and a bit of downtime, etc).


Congrats! Here's the advice of a father of two:

1) Less and more than you think. Bank on at least one to two hours out of every four (that's about their sleep-wake cycle for the first couple months). Very little of it is hard if they're not sick, but the cycle is relentless.

2) Babies are very portable for the first 6 months or so b/c they're so oblivious to the world. Wake-up, change them, feed them, interact for a while, put them back to sleep for another 2 hours and they don't care what else you're doing. One parent having a full time job is easy, two is expensive and hard. Downtime is plentiful because of the frequent naps. Ditto for exercise as long as you're going one at a time while the other tends baby and unwinds.

Ironically, scheduling is much harder once the baby sleeps through the night, because at that age they're much more alert and aware during the day and therefore need a more rigid nap time routine. It gets a little better around 12-18 months when they go from two naps to one, and even better around 3-4 yrs when they drop the daytime nap and stay up all day.


Huh. My answer (as a father of 3) to how much time they'll consume would, only slightly facetiously, be "all of it."

Your math about sleep cycles is way wrong, and the idea that you'll still have half the free time you used to is laughable. Assuming a more or less 'normal' work schedule, most of the time they're sleeping, this guy will either be at work or will be sleeping himself.

My advice is to assume that for a few years you're going to have very little downtime unless you don't sleep much or don't feel the need to see your wife much.


As a father of 4, the only downtime I have today is being taken up by writing this comment. Gotta run!

P.S. never let them outnumber you


As a sibling of 5: muwhahahahaaaa!


As the oldest of 5, allow me to echo this sentiment ;)


Amateurs. I'm one of 8. My parents never had a chance.


I'll see your 8 and raise you one of 10!

I'm a middle child, and yes I suffer from middle-child syndrome big-time, still. Working class background, mum was a housewife and dad worked in a textile mill. Its amazing how he managed to raise us on that salary, yet 7 out of 10 of us have at least a degree, going all the way up to at least one PhD.


To clarify, I was talking about age 0-3 months specifically. At that age, my kids slept for about 2-3 hours per 4. For the 1-2 they were awake they required attention for most of the time. So 30-50% of your clock time is taken up by the baby. So you don't have half the free time, you have half the total time.


If your a startup founder and a father of 3, you can look forward to these type of battles...http://founderhood.com


I can tell you this - I have no memories from the first four months after the birth of my first child. It's just one big blur. Good thing we made lots of photos. The need to feed baby every 3 hours is going to have the profoundest effect on your lifestyle. A bit of the downtime is in fact going to be a bit, and not when you want it, but whenever you can. The regular exercise - I wouldn't be counting on it, not in first 4 months.

In short, the only thing you can be sure of is that "your life, as you know it, is gone. Never to return."


I hear ya... I have no idea what happened in the last 4 months of 2006 and the first 6 months of 2007. My second son was born in August 2006 and he cried if he was awake until he was 8 months old.


My first daughter did that. Only for 3 months, but for that entire 3 months she was either eating, sleeping, or wailing. (shudder)


Wait, if you're abstractbill, does that make the kid AbstractBillImpl?


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First of all, congrats! I have a three month old, and all I can say is that you just learn to cope. I've realized that some of my goals are going to have to slip for the time being while I care for my wonderful little girl. As for exercise, planning makes all of the difference! I bike to/from work or exercise over lunch, while my wife works out after work while I pick our daughter up from daycare (we alternate days). On the weekends we use a jogging stroller to get our hearts pumping while the little one snoozes away...


Three month old baby in a daycare? Woah.


Welcome to the US.

Pretty much the rest of the developed world gets 1 year parental/maternal benefits as a social construct.


You'll figure it out, don't worry about it too much. Sacrifices will happen, but you will adjust. There is no right or wrong way to do - regardless of the countless words of advice that you will hear from everyone. Congratulations, it's not easy, but is very rewarding.


Here's a good article you might want to read I just discovered on the Parenting Reddit: http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/familyadvice/3355719/Idle-...

Of course, a new born obviously requires a lot of attention (I have a 3 month old), but let them breath as they get older.


Thanks, that was an excellent article.


If your answer to number 1 is not 100%, you are going to be letting them down in some way. (Or at least feel that way) Trust me, they will own you, being your #1 priority for the next 5 years at least.


This doesn't strike me as very useful advice, sorry. Taken at face value, you're saying my wife and I need to stop sleeping, and I need to quit my job. The number may be high, but I already know it's not 100%


Well, I suppose you are right if you want to take me literally, but I was speaking in a more rhetorical tone.

My point was that as a father of two boys, I can tell you that as far as priorities go, they are by far number 1, and they occupy pretty much all of my free time, either directly or indirectly. Of course I do make time for other things like work and my wife and trying to get a startup out the door.


Unfortunately my experience is that if 1) is the question and there's multi-guess answers then the correct answer will be D) All of the above.

Or to put it another way, here's the Springfield Nuclear Power Plant softball team: "No one can give more than one hundred percent. By definition that is the most anyone can give..."

In time you'll get some of your life back, but it can take a while depending on the baby. It's worth it though as you'll be amazed by how much you come to love the little pup.


I'm going to design my first article of clothing for myself next month. I'm going to Vietnam, and I'll do it in either Saigon, Hanoi, or Ho An. I'll be in the first two cities anyways, I might go to third just for its reputation as a tailor and fashion city. I've got a shirt I used to like a lot that's worn out, going to have a tailor use it as a model to make another. Going to get two shirts made. Depending on how that goes, I might make a crazy-ish piece since prices are somewhat cheap.


I visited Vietnam three times over a 3 year period. Is it your first time?

Since my last visit, laws have changed that require you to wear a helmet while on a moped. One of the things I enjoyed the most was the freedom in riding a moped around a huge crowded city for hours, not knowing where I was going, or where I'd end up. It's somewhat ruined now with the helmet law. Nearly 100 degree weather wearing a helmet isn't so fun.


I had a close friend die from a crash on a moped due to him not wearing a helmet.

I suggest you suck it up and wear one regardless of the heat if you either: use your head for a living, or just value your life.


Never dress for the ride, dress for the crash.


That is unfortunate about your friend.

Helmets seem to be all or nothing. If there is a law forcing them, 95% of people wear helmets. If there isn't, 95% of people don't wear a helmet.

You would expect people to carefully consider it and make a decision on their own. For some reason people can easily rationalize not wearing a helmet in two seconds and roll with that for years.


>Helmets seem to be all or nothing

I'm not sure about that. The law in Delaware is that you must have a helmet on your motorcycle for each person on it (I guess they don't want there to be a monetary cost to wearing a helmet.), and it seems like the majority (2/3?) of people I see wear them, but definitely not all.

To some extent it comes down to culture/how aware people are. I think in America, at least half of people would wear them regardless (and in a lot of states, there's either no law requiring them, or the law only applies to new riders).


I lived in Taiwan for a year, I think I witnessed three or four moped accidents. Helmets are good.

Also, this reminds me of a quip one of the SportsCenter anchors made back in the day: 'The NHL has made helmets optional. Injuries are also optional.'


there is an excellent episode of Top Gear in which Clarkson and co. ride across Vietnam on mopeds. The percentage of the motoring population which use motorcycles, rather than cars, is simply staggering. They throw out some interesting statistics as well (road deaths per capita 4x higher than in the states). http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QMHVD-gWPDk

see also http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kaP353v8JWY


Helmets were made a requirement on Christmas '07; it was strange, one day nobody had helmets on, the next day everyone had them on.

Sorry about your friend.


As someone who is currently riding a moped in 100 degree weather in Asia right now - I really don't mind the helmet. You really don't notice it.

Hopping on a moped and heading anywhere, parking anywhere really is quite enjoyable. It is unfortunate north american cities are not well suited to it.


San Francisco is pretty good: doesn't rain often, relatively compact, lots of traffic.


True. How about safety and parking there? Both are important factors. Rain isn't much of an issue.

Being from Toronto, the cold and snow are big deterrents. But safety is the biggest concern for me, even riding a bike in a bike lane is really dangerous. Cars don't look for you when making turns, they just go.

I was hit once cycling when someone made an abrupt right turn without signalling. My handlebar dug into the side of their van and somehow I was able to stay on my bike. They screeched to a halt and started yelling at me about how I hit them. They turned directly into me and I was in a bike lane!

Riding a scooter here feels so much safer - drivers are aware of them and are cautious at the appropriate times.


Car parking is bad, which means scooters are good. Although I got a couple of tickets for putting mine on (huge) sidewalks, which was, IMO, incredibly lame.

Safety... yeah, you're probably a bit safer than on a bicycle, but you have to watch out. The first night I had mine I hit some tram tracks and felt the back wheel skittering around, which was not a fun feeling. Kept it up, though.


Hey, I just quit my job recently and my goal is to travel to as many places as possible for a year. My flight to Saigon is this Sunday, and I'm planning to do the whole country tour from Hanoi to the South for about 2 weeks. Let me know if you're interested in meeting up, just dropped you an email.


I am going to Ho Chi Minh city next week, too! Talk about synchronicity!


I'm training for the 'Yorkshireman Marathon' in September in the UK. Its 26.6 miles of hilly off road tracks with over 3000ft of ascent. I don't just want to finish it, I want to get in between 3.30 and 4 hours.

The biggest problem at the moment is finding the time to train. Ideally I would like to be out everyday but I can only manage 4 days a week. Each training run is lasting upto 2.5 hours and finding that time each day is tough.

The rest is fun and massively rewarding. As I get fitter I need less sleep and I feel much stronger - both physically and mentally.


In general terms, you may need less sleep when you are healthy and fit, but if you are doing 2.5 hour runs you really should be getting extra sleep. Distance running takes a huge toll on your body and you need to do everything you can to help it recover. My favorite long run recovery technique is an ice bath, ibuprofen, and beer (carbs!).


Thats the catch 22 of it all. I get plenty of sleep, at least 9 hours a night. So when I'm up I'm full of it an could easily do a long run as I'm fully rested and ready to go.

The only way to find more time to run is to sleep less which is obviously bad.

I've never tried the ice bath, ibuprofen and recovery but I've certainly had beer. Thanks for your advice.


You might actually be overtraining. In my personal experience it's quality not quantity that matters. See the recent Tabata grace. I would check out and find a great personal trainer to help you along. And good luck!


You might be right, but I run for a club and race regularly so its not like I'm coming at this from nothing. But thanks for your feedback.


I would like to get my black belt in Taekwondo by the age of 30 (turning 23 in August) and fight at a Canadian national or Ontario provincial competition. I am currently a yellow belt (started about a year ago) but have won a gold and a silver at two recent invitational competitions.

I had an excellent teacher in Thunder Bay, but just moved to Toronto a month ago to be in a more tech savvy town (I'm a developer) and am having difficulty finding a dojang that I like and that gives attention to nurturing their lower color belts.


If you are getting into competitive martial arts, I highly recommend that you read The Art of Learning (http://www.amazon.com/Art-Learning-Journey-Optimal-Performan...).


I just read that last week.. great book! The end is absolutely riveting.


I've considered joining Taekwondo for some time but worry that the lower belts will be to caught up in teaching very basic moves and the traditional aspects of the sport.

I understand the need to learn the basics just wondering if you found this time a drag at all or it was all interesting and I'd have nothing to worry about?


To be honest, in martial arts, the basics is really all there is. You don't tell a novice from an expert by which katas they know, or even their belt.

You tell them apart by their attitude toward training (patient, calm, focused) and their mastery of the basics (accurate targeting, completely relaxed body, powerful delivery).

One thing I've enjoyed in martial arts training is that taste grows faster than ability - which means that subjectively you get worse the more you practice. To compensate, training teaches you to be more patient with yourself - when we screw something up, we just do it again, there's no need to say anything or get annoyed.

Attitude is the biggest thing to focus on in the early grades (the technical stuff can only be learnt by repetition, so it's not that hard - just repeat). I don't think it's a drag at all.


It's definitely not a drag! If you're anything like I was when I started, it will take a lot of work to get the basic moves right. There are reasons for how each technique is performed, so it's important to understand them. Your form noticeably improves the more you practice. Martial arts are one of those things that you naturally improve at the longer you do it.

Plus most classes will mix up the basics with other stuff like forms and different kinds of sparring, so you won't spend the whole time doing repetitive exercises.


It's really important to have a great teacher and find a decent school. Find a school that divides it's classes into beginners and not and then go watch a beginner class. The basic moves are important and actually quite fun (front snap, sidekicks, etc.) and really hone your core, leg and hip muscles that you'll be using as you learn more advanced techniques and it should always be a challenge. Once you get to the yellow stripe/yellow belt level you learn your roundhouse/turning kick and back kick which are the biggest staples in competition and by far the most used techniques at all level of sparring.

I also recommend finding a school that does multiple form of martial arts. Not only can you attend a variety of classes, a lot of masters will incorporate aspects of the other martial arts into each other for a more rounded course. Right off the bat we learned basic technique, self defence moves, patterns and traditional movements such as one step sparring.

If you show an interest and find a good school, there's absolutely nothing to be worried about on the boredom front.


I suppose the most interesting goal, to me, is getting my teeth fixed. I didn't take care of them all through my twenties and it's had serious repercussions on my social and professional life as well as taking a drastic toll on my confidence.

Roadblocks and/or bottlenecks are easy: finances. Dental work isn't cheap, especially when you're looking at as much work as I need done. The "fear" of the dentist was also an initial roadblock, but not only is it far less worse than I imagined/remembered, I also happen to have "the hots" for my female dentist so it makes going far easier.


I had awful dental hygiene up until my mid-20s.

A big step for me was finding a dentist I trusted, and just doing what he told me - letting go of the fear that he was going to completely drain me financially.

It wasn't cheap, but eventually all the required work was done, and I formed new habits that have meant no no work has been needed for several years now.

One of the most important things I did was get invisalign (braces). My teeth were really hard to keep clean before - flossing was almost impossible in some places due to the way my teeth were overlapping. Now they're straight it's really quite easy.


I'm with you there. The dentist I have now I really feel like I can trust and she's given me a care plan that isn't just the highest priced option, but all my options. She recently went in to do a root canal and found out I didn't need one when she could've just as easily done it and charged me for it.

But I do agree, I think once I've gotten the work done, taking caring of them should be easier.


You might try this to help improve and maintain your teeth and gum health (in addition to regular flossing and the steps your dentist recommends of course ):

http://www.30smile.com/

I know it looks hokey and informercially, and I was very skeptical but my father (a retired orthodontist and now an investor in the company) was insistent I try it so I said I would give it a try and see what happens at my next checkup which was a couple months away. At my next checkup my dental hygienist was really impressed with my gum health, something she never mentioned before and I didn't mention anything about the tooth brush. Same thing with my wife at her last checkup and I've heard similar from other siblings. It takes some getting used to as your gums will likely bleed some in the beginning but I think it's worth it as you don't worry about trying to hit all the spots. One other thing I've noticed since my last cleaning is that I haven't seen a buildup of calculus in certain areas that I usually got before even though I would try hard to brush and floss those areas.



Excellent read, I appreicate the link. Thankfully, I haven't waited so long to go the dentist that I need implants or dentures. They're saving everything via root canals, crowns and fillings. I do have two missing teeth which really aren't visible when smiling that I may eventually get implants for, but for now it's not severe or costly enough that I would really entertain going out of the country to have it done.


My dentist has told me that in the long run an implant is cheaper than a root canal, as most root canals will eventually fail and need the implant anyway (I have an implant because I was just genetically missing a tooth and I absolutely love it - I'm a bit jealous of the guy with nothing but implants, I've thought to myself many times how great it would be to do just that, but I didn't know it was a realistic option).


i'd suggest to go to other country with cheaper but high-quality med services. dentist are super overpriced in US so many ppl do that. And you can combine that trip with vacation at this country. )))


I presume you're asking about goals not dreams? Here's the stuff I've been working on lately:

1. Fixing my motivation problem. No, not that kind :-) After a lot of self-analysis I discovered I'm motivated by my desire to be "the best", and this isn't a good thing because I tend to become a little better than the #2 guy and then stop, contented. Mozart or Microsoft didn't become what they are by trying to beat the #2 guy! So I'm fixing myself to always move forward even when there's no one ahead of me.

2. Becoming a better classical-style singer. The major roadblock is that my health is very poor, and my throat always seems to be sore for some reason or other. I rectify this by taking as many lessons as I can when I'm feeling well or even moderately unwell.

3. Becoming better with women. The major roadblock right now is that I don't know how to "raise the temperature" in a casual date setting. In nightclubs where the "temperature" is high, I've taught myself to pick up women pretty consistently, but this doesn't seem to be enough.

4. Releasing a neat piece of software that I've been developing in the last couple months. It's already pretty good and will probably make a bigger splash than my last "fun" project (http://openphotovr.org) did, but the finishing bits just take so much time. Don't worry HN, I'll keep you posted.

5. Solving math problems in and around "computational game theory". My previous "neat" results were about quining cooperation (http://lesswrong.com/lw/do/reformalizing_pd/ and http://lesswrong.com/lw/13y/freaky_fairness/), and recently I've been trying to solve a similar problem in a more abstract setting. Not getting much results yet; so far it looks like a blank wall and I keep trying different directions of attack.


1: just find someone else to compare yourself to. Even if there's no one better than you at your job/in your group of friends/whatever, there definitely are people better than you.

4: You're probably trying to make it too perfect before you launch. Pick a date that seems a little too close, and resolve to submit it to HN by that date no matter what. If you end up pushing half of those "finishing bits" to after launch, whatever. It's quite possible that no one on HN will say that it should have one of those finishing bits, which probably means you can cross it off the list.


Turning Hackety Hack into a force to be reckoned with when it comes to teaching programming.

I was a really bad steward for the first half a year, due to crushing lack of assistance and being really demoralized. Lately, I've managed to turn that around, and am currently crushing it pretty hard. 1.0 for Whyday, and then more beyond... things are looking up, but it's a long hard road ahead.


launch a web site that brings in enough income that I can quit my day job


Start blogging about everything you know. Teach the world. Check your Analytics regularly to find out what of those things people are searching for. Use the Google Keyword tool to measure market potential of digging deeper on those subjects. Start spin-off sites if there's enough potential. Sign up appropriate affiliates. Develop information products around those subjects. Sit back and relax.


too much work & not scalable. sh1tm0nkey and all the "make money fast" people online tell you to do this... I used to hang out on forums with people who do this and I can say that 95% of them are broke, the other 5% are making money exploiting the other 95%.


I suggest signing up for the Challenge (formerly the 30-day challenge). It's just starting now and runs through the end of october.. you'll learn everything you need to know. The right way.

http://www.challenge.co/


To be a racecar driver--professionally or not. Sounds crazy, but something about watching Formula 1 for the last few years has driven (haha) me to really want to get involved some kind of way. Saving up for lessons at the Skip Barber Racing School for next summer.

Current bottleneck: no time right now to dedicate to it. I just satisfy race longings now thru occasionally karting and flying around the backroads here in NC.

http://www.skipbarber.com/


Do you know about Drivers Education (DE) and track days? I just got my $1500 "race car" running and am planning to do a DE event this fall with my local PCA (porsche club of america.) There are also Solo2 and autocross events everywhere you can do in your daily driver.


I think I have about $1600 in my autocross (and sometimes daily driver) car. It really isn't that expensive if you find something cheap (like a BMW E30 or Porsche 924) and do all the work to it yourself.


heh... mine is an '88 924S. For anyone who's interested, there is a ton of support for DIY'ers out there who want to build a car. The bmw and porsche forums are awesome. I imagine there's a great forum out there for any car worth racing.


Sweet. The 924S was greatly underrated in my opinion. I have an '87 that was my previous autocrosser but is in need of new struts, which are pretty expensive (more than I paid for the car).


Thanks! Didn't know about these.


Solo II autocross is a really good (and super cheap) way to improve your driving skills.


I'll second this; it's a fantastic rush, and a good place to get started. However, you'll want to quickly graduate to HPDE's and other "big boy" forms of racing, once you've gotten your first fix. (Dare I suggest Rally? :)

Look to SCCA (http://www.scca.org/) and NASA (http://www.nasaproracing.com/) for events in your area (both autox and road racing). Also, be sure to look into local model-specific clubs (like BMWCCA, or Mini and Miata clubs); they often hold their own events, as their membership is large enough to sustain it, and are usually quite welcoming of folks of all makes and models at events (although you may find yourself in an "other" class of some kind).

Best of luck to you, but be warned: this is an expensive hobby. :)


I figure I'll eventually get into some of that more expensive stuff, but at this point I can't really afford more than autocross preparation.


There is nothing like professional instruction. On my first run I overheated my breaks and flew across the chicane. Second run, with professional instructor, was chasing down cars with +150 hp. This was at the annual Shelby bash in Vegas - cost of entry is a Shelby, so pretty high. A few weeks ago I spent a Saturday with a Porsche-owning friend at a PCA autocross day. So much fun. These are people who own Porsches because they are genuinely great race cars. The fastest car was a beat-up-but-loved 914. Plenty of people had 924's and 944's. As has been said here, $1500 will get you a fun track car, and if its a Porsche you have access to a solid community of racers who are more than happy to instruct: in fact newbies have to have instructors.


Learn every juggling trick I have seen, heared of or imagined.

Roadblock: balls keep falling.

EDIT: current status (as of yesterday): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0lsuO0tQZaU


Practise standing over a bed or a couch. This greatly speeds up the ball recovery process, allowing you to iterate faster with far less frustration!


Awesome stuff. I have been juggling for years (self-taught) and it is all about practice practice practice. Also, having a juggling partner is an awesome thing. Just being able to work out the details of a trick and visualize them with another person is a vast improvement upon self-study.


> Roadblock: balls keep falling.

Perhaps a powerful fan pointed upward could slow them down a bit.


Good skills - keep on practicing!


I'm moving to Thailand or possibly the Philippines from Sweden at the end of August, to attempt to build apps aiming to be ramen profitable in a developing country and then work my way up from there.

Problem: Worst case, my savings only last until December.

Solution: Splatter "hire me" over apps, portfolio site and keep an eye out for freelance work to retain a reasonable life-support margin.

Problem: May not find freelance work due to bad luck, recession, incompetence etc.

Solution: Apply for distance courses and do 25-50% studies for student funding.

Problem: May over invest in a horrible idea that is never going to make money.

Solution: Aim to build small apps.

Problem: Completely ran out of money, with no obvious way of getting new ones.

Solution: Credit card should get me a few months margins.

Problem: Completely ran out of credit, with no obvious way of supporting myself.

Solution: Admit incompetence, feel ashamed, move back to comfortable Sweden and work at Volvo or Ericsson until retirement like everyone else.

Problem: Pretty Asian girls.

Solution: Don't.

Biggest bottleneck is clearly money, and I'd really prefer not be studying at the same time. I'm also going to be staying with friends, so that'll keep my burn rate down.


You may have already thought about this, but have you considered getting a "teach English" job? In many cases, your housing (and possibly food/etc.) will be paid for, and you can focus your free time on building apps. Best of luck!


I want to start a company that builds solar panels in space.

Roadblocks (the ones I think are the biggest anyway):

Supply Chain. Probably going to first need a way to or supplier who can mine and process materials from somewhere other than Earth.

Infrastructure. Definitely going to need some sort of factory in space in which this operation can be done.

Knowledge. I don't know anything about manufacturing in space. There's some research in the area, but my guess is that the knowledge base just doesn't exist.

edit: formatting


What have you done to bring this to fruition?

While not insurmountable, the current situation seems to be "I want to build space-based solar panels. I don't know anything about building them, I have no way to get the materials, and no way to turn the materials into the product once I do." Can I ask, given that, what led you to want to do this in the first place?

Is the idea here to beam the power back in microwave form? I would add another hurdle, if so: Regulatory approval. You can't just aim a microwave laser at the surface of the Earth from space without anyone noticing or caring.

This certainly is an interesting aspiration, though.


I'll answer in reverse order.

Beaming power back is certainly one application, but not the one I had in mind. I was thinking these would be used to power things in space. The vast majority of electrical power used by stuff like satellites and space stations comes from solar power. Total mass, electrical power, and fuel are the major constraints in all of these systems. If there was a readily available source of solar arrays in space, then that could effectively remove that constraint, and relax the constraints on mass and fuel (since you don't have to bring the solar panels with you).

Now, why would I want to do that? I'm one of those people that not only dreamed about going into space, but also assumed that the future of humanity was not on Earth, but out there. For that to happen, we need to be able to expand into the solar system, which just isn't going to happen if we need to move all of the materials we need out of Earth's gravity well.

Finally, what have I done? To be honest, it probably isn't going to sound like much. I'm open to suggestions. Obviously, it's going to take a lot of money. Most of what I've done has been focused on being able to make a credible case to get funding. I'm working on my PhD, which builds my credentials. I network with other students in the field because it's going to take more than one person.

In terms of actual pen to paper, I decided to work on the supply chain problem first. I'm working on calculations for what it would take to send a mission to an asteroid and bring the whole thing back as a possible scenario.


Very ambitious. I mean this in a jealous way.

It will probably take 20 years and a billion dollars - but both seem miniscule if the project is successful.


Has anybody every done (non-fictional) mining somewhere other than Earth?


I don't think so. If you count collecting samples and returning to Earth with them, there's Apollo (from the moon) and possibly Hayabusa (from an asteroid: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hayabusa).


The Apollo missions picked up some moon rocks. That's kind of close.


Build a house; specifically a wood/earth "natural house" and fit it out to be self sufficient (for monetary rather than eco reasons :)).

Current road blocks: finding time to build, finding a site without NIMBY neighbours, planning permission (grrr)


I'm interested in this too and also for monetary reasons rather than the eco thing.

Mostly what I've looked at so far are cob/straw houses. With these you are basically looking at a rubble/concrete base (which you can hopefully scavenge for free), clay/straw/sand for making the cob, and wood for the roof/window/doorframes etc. The best budget option for a roof seems to be turf, although that cuts down on the amount of rain water you could collect if you wanted to independant from a water company.

The biggest obstacle in the UK seems to be finding suitable land and getting planning permission etc. I don't really know any solution to that.

Over the past few weeks I've been reading 'building with cob: a step by step guide" which covers both the technical and legal aspects of building one of these structures in the UK. It's a great book.


I know this is self promotion :) but I recently blogged about my reasons for wanting to do this here: http://www.errant.me.uk/blog/2010/07/why-i-want-an-eco-house...

The best budget option for a roof seems to be turf

What I have in mind is something of a sunken/earthworks house - so yes, turf roof which I would try and double as a grass terrace etc. cob/straw looks like a useful material from my research too - coupled with the sunken aspect for insulation reasons.

The biggest obstacle in the UK seems to be finding suitable land and getting planning permission etc. I don't really know any solution to that.

Most of the "first generation" examples I have seen build first and sort planning later. But there are newer projects that have applied successfully - and that is the route I prefer.

I think planners are becoming more open to self sustained housing, thankfully :)

Thanks for the book recommendation! I will track it down from Amazon.


I actually live in a stawbale house. It looks completely normal, except for 2' thick external walls and the stained concrete floors. I absolutely love it.

My dad/brother built it. One practical piece of advice, keep any walls that you are going to hang cabinets on standard framing walls. This will save you an huge amount of time and effort to get them to hang properly and look good. Also be careful how /where you run your water pipes. Straw (and probably other materials) really don't like water if you get a leak.


Where do you buy the land? How do you find it? What do you look for in land? How do you even start to do something like this?

I'd love to do this too but I'm overwhelmed by thousands of questions.


I am at the early stages of this; so I can only part answer your questions. But, basically, land is fairly easy to come buy. There will be various land agents nearby (particularly in the countryside) you just have to track them down.b (I've also used this site before: http://www.uklanddirectory.org.uk/index.asp)

Alternatively find a nice spot and find out who owns it; make an offer. You might get a good deal this way - I had my eye on a pretty nice third of an acre plot which I agreed for under £15,000 (which is a steal). Unfortunately there was a couple of NIMBYs over the other side of a small copse (in huge houses I should say) who had me in mind as an eco warrior and, I guess, expected hippies, and drugs and whatever other stereotypes they could come up with. And so planning permission was looking like an expensive process.

What do I look for in land (it is a personal thing of course!). I want a small amount of woodland - or access to woodland next door. I'd like a hillside so I can sink a house successfully. South facing plot (for build purposes). Road access. I'd like it to have a running watercourse. High water table so I can sink a well (that is a minefield of health and safety btw). Enough space to run a septic drain. Enough wind/sun to provide power [in the long term]. Close enough to have mains in the short term.


I'm in the US but I guess the process would be similar.

Would a small cabin be much harder to build, more expensive, less eco-friendly? It seems like there would be less planning approval stuff?


To do research in natural language processing. Roadblocks:

* Time. Or if time = money then I need money to be able to spend time on this. Also, in itself this wouldn't bring in much income I don't think.

* No CS background. Don't know where to start.


Three good books that can get you started:

1) Natural Language Understanding - James Allen 2) Speech and Natural Language Processing - Jurafsky & Martin 3) Statistical Foundations of Natural Language Processing - Manning

You can brush up your probability and Linear Algebra from the prep guides available from Andrew Ng's machine learning course. My best wishes.


I have copies of 2) Speech and Natural Language Processing - Jurafsky & Martin 3) Statistical Foundations of Natural Language Processing - Manning that I'm willing to sell. I tried to bite off more than I could chew and moved on to a different project.

peter at pchristensen dot com


Some good advice 1. use python + NLTK 2. read papers and posters from current conferecnce such as ACL or even WWW 3. start an incremental project and try at least getting a poster published in a tier-1 conference 4. If you have good grades + work ex go to CMU Advanced Lang. Tech Masters program


You will probably want to start with CS concepts, given that from what I have seen NLP is a very algorithmic area of research, having some CS/math background will help you a lot to understand what has already been done and to build on it.

Now I'm not sure the best way to go about this, either learn the abstract concepts which might not be the best way to start or pickup one of the more pure languages which in turn will teach you concepts when you learn how they are implemented in the language.


Thanks. I'm assuming Common Lisp is a suitable language? Not sure which ones you would consider pure, other than Scheme or Haskell.


Not pure as such, just something you can get the concepts from without to much language specific stuff or at to high a level. Don't think I'm the best person to suggest though having started with PHP in my teens, then only really had my mind opened up to proper CS when I got to uni.


What part of NLP? It's actually a pretty wide field.


Not exactly sure, but after skimming through Wikipedia, natural language generation sounds pretty interesting. But text-to-speech and speech recognition is probably what I've had in mind.


Conisder "Statistical Methods for Speech Recognition" by Fred Jelinek. Lots of math, not so much CS, if that'll make things easier for you.


I'm working on becoming a beekeeper. Learning about bee cycles and getting involved in a beekeeping group is easy enough. The biggest roadblock is finding a place to keep them in LA.


Perhaps Acton or Leona Valley could work? I went cherry-picking in Leona Valley last weekend and there was quite a bit of honey for sale here and there. Also my local grocery store sells great honey from Acton. If you're not familiar with these areas they are in and around the Antelope Valley (about one hour north-east of LA).


Check out this awesome site (http://www.voiceofthehive.com/). The background is painful, but the information is awesome. I don't know if it will actually help you become a beekeeper, but I enjoyed it thoroughly.


I want to go on a deep sea submarine ride, so that I see bioluminecent fish.

Road Block(s): No packaged trips to do this, no network with marine biologists/researchers who own the subs


In case you live in London .. come see the Science Museum (South Kensington), they have an incredibly cool deep-sea fish exhibit going on, including bioluminescent ones.


not quite the same, but i live in thailand for about 1/2 of each year and i live about an hour boat ride from ang thong national park ( random pic http://www.thailand-travelonline.com/wp-content/uploads/2008... )

and i usually stay the night. 2 or 3 times that i've been there, i see massive bioluminecents in the water. not sure exacly what causes it. but in the middle of the night ill go into the ocean and spash and its the brightest purple you've ever seen. like when you hit the water it 'activates' something and explodes with color.

anyway. i do have the internet right here. should probably look that up. its amazing.


I was in a bay in the east of Puerto Rico last year where they had bioluminecent bacteria in the water, where you could kayak through. I guess it's not the same as going deep sea but it's a lot more in reach I guess - you could do it for a grand over a weekend :)


learn as much mathematics as I can. Currently enrolled in undergrad summer classes at Berkeley, but I already have a CS degree from another school back east. Some obstacles: paying tuition out of pocket, navigating the bureaucracy of being a non-matriculated student, finding inexpensive housing near the university that's not utter crap; struggling to keep up in classes because I am older and my brain doesn't work as fast, etc.


if your goal is to just learn as much math as you can. Why matriculate in the class and pay tuition? I've never seen a professor check if everyone is matriculated let alone kick anyone out for not being matriculated. Plus no bureaucracy. :-) I've sat in on tons of classes. Also MIT, Stanford and Berkeley post video lectures, notes, assignments exams of math classes online. also free. save the money and get a better apartment.


Ah.

Because at any given moment I may have some side projects that "might potentially make some money" going on, and if I don't pay for a class, I will naturally just want to work on those projects - this has been proven out by history.


Become one of the world's top salsa dancers by 2020.

Current roadblock is that I'm just not doing it enough. I get distracted by other interests of mine. I was previously practising 3 times a week (which probably still isn't enough) but lately I'm only going once a week.


Not to be cynical, but how are you going to be top of the world in anything practicing only 3 times a week?


Yeah, I know. Even three times a week isn't enough. Perhaps it's a goal that isn't really important to me.


That's an admirable goal. Why do you want to be that good? Do you want to be a professional? By definition, a professional dancer is one who can teach, perform, and social dance.

Please read this article by the Unlikely Salsero:

http://www.unlikelysalsero.com/2007/08/magic-of-time-last-on...

The whole idea of going from canned set routines to dancing to the music is a bit of difficult hack that I'm still working on (but making progress). The hack for that I think is understand the structure of the song - (real-time Fourier analysis of a set of eight measures of 8-beats each..with your feet)


I am currently trying to get back into programming. I haven't touched code in 10 years and way back then I was still writing little-- applets I guess we would call them today-- in QBasic and cracking out some crappy VBasic stuff. I was completely self-taught which meant that my code was as sloppy and inefficient as you could possibly imagine while still successfully getting the job done. I had been writing BASIC for about 10 years at that point and was pretty competent with the way I hacked things together.

Here I am, years later, vastly more knowledgeable than I ever have been, yet code dumb. I have a few things I would like to develop solutions for, and Java seemed to fit my needs. I started on the "How to Think Like a Computer Scientist" book and I've enjoyed it, but I'm starting to feel that maybe Java isn't the solution I am looking for.

A few solutions I would like to have implemented quickly and I am heavily considering refreshing my limited knowledge of VB and cracking out some hack code.

I'm torn right now. Learn a new multi-platform language and proper coding practices or just settle for some Windows only solutions that I could complete in a vastly shorter period of time.

edit: spelling

tl;dr - write code again (learn a language)


May I recommend learning either python or ruby? They are both fairly easy to pick up.


It might be interesting to just learn how to be a great information architect and product manager. Head a team of offshore developers to make your ideas happen.

Just an idea...


I honestly think I would be good that that. I am a very mechanical person-- a large portion of my friends and family refer to me as "the fixer." I feel that I generally am able to develop innovative solutions to problems, but I currently lack the coding skills.

The problems with the few things I want to accomplish currently is that they are not really money-making solutions. They are personal things that I would like to implement across a variety of platforms to include Windows, Linux and my cell. Another would be simplifying work-related tasks that could benefit my co-workers as well, but are not something that the company (nor myself) would be interested in spending largish sums of money on developing.


Python. Easy to get started, but also very capable.


I looked at Python a few years ago and lacked the self-discipline to continue forward with it. I remember nothing of that failed attempt other than everyone spouting how wonderful and easy it was. It could very well be my answer though. One of the solutions I would like to work on involves a few small applications that I would need to run on Windows, Linux, OSX and cell phones. I could cut out the cell phone requirement if needs be as I would likely be one of a handful in my company that would use it.

I sought Java out as a truly multi-platform endeavor that most of my users would already have installed on their systems. I know very few Windows users that have Python or would know what to do with it. Also, I would eventually like working towards redeveloping our current web apps which are a mess of dysfunctionalism at its finest.

Does it sound like I would be better served with Python? Also, the allure of VB for me, like any Visual environment is that I can quickly build nice GUI's that make my stuff instantly usable by the-- less informed-- that I work with.


To write Java well you have to understand object-oriented programming. I think first learning to program is easier without OOP, or GUIs for that matter. But if you already know the basics, learning OOP is a good next step.

Not trying to force you to use Python - I just thought I'd address some of your concerns.

You don't have to ship Python to your Windows users - there's a way to glue the Python runtime to your program and generate a standalone EXE (see py2exe.org). Also, a non-trivial Windows application will eventually need an installer. Which could install a Python runtime. But distribution is a problem for later.

Java on cell phones is a totally different beast than the regular JRE. Getting your desktop Java program to run on a phone is not an automated task by any means. Also don't forget that your desktop users have to have the JRE installed (and preferably running the same version).

Learning to program takes time. You will likely end up rewriting many of the earlier pieces of your app, and possibly have to reorganize it entirely. I see that you are trying to replace an existing system that is badly put together. That's a good motivator, but keep in mind that quick and dirty solutions are unlikely to produce a good result, at least not until you rewrite that first attempt. Having said that, there is a place for VB, and it has an undeservedly bad reputation.

My own programming language timeline went like this: QBasic, VB, PHP, C, Java, Python. Having gone through all of the above, Python seemed easy and well-designed. But the easy to learn part is at least somewhat influenced by having done similar things before.


Very awesome answer. Thank you.

I am familiar with programming. Though I remember very little of the syntax, I certainly have not forgotten how to properly analyze and organize the flow of code-- or in other words, how to think like a machine.

Still, OOP was completely foreign to me before starting this adventure-- but I have also realized that it is not entirely different to writing good segmented VB code in which I would create procedures to call upon and return results-- I just didn't know to call it OOP back then.

I have heard some people say that OOP takes a considerable knowledge of proper coding to utilize fully, which maybe is beyond me at this point, but if you were to step outside of your multilingual box and decide it was time to learn programming, would you start with OOP or something like Python/Ruby?

Let me put all of this into perspective a little bit and maybe you or someone else can get me pointed in the right direction:

One of my immediate needs/desires is a scheduler. I am fine with a command line program that simply outputs the details of a database that I maintain. I'm good with that. What I need is a lightweight piece of software that simply allows me to input Date/Time and maybe some notes and then allow me to manipulate that date to provide alerts or notices on a schedule I define for each task. Now, this may sound like reinventing the wheel, but honestly I hate the way traditional schedulers work and I'd like to just take a crack at it myself. I also think this would be a relatively light and easy first project for my welcome back to programming.

This "database" could be a simple tab-delimited text file that my software imports and parses-- in fact, I am quite fond of ETCs. This would also mean I could keep this "database" up to date across several machines using various OSes via Dropbox even. I would like for this software to work on both Windows and Linux as I am regularly in both systems-- and ultimately my phone if at all possible.

Now, I really do appreciate the help and I sincerely thank you for following along this far and reading all this gibberish-- but what would you fire up to write something like that? I am, after all, a lifetime learner and I have no problems learning multiple languages. I've got the time. :)


You can do OOP in VB. It is almost proper OOP: the only thing not supported is real inheritance. So for every method in your child class you have to write some boilerplate to make a call to the parent.

As a side note, there was a really awesome book I read back when VB6 was still new. It's called Hardcore Visual Basic, and it is about how to do things that were said to be impossible in VB. Using the undocumented VarPtr functions, calling Windows API, etc. It is out of print (obviously), but available online at http://vb.mvps.org/hardweb/

That page mourns the late VB6. It is right: VB.Net is an entirely different language. I don't even know where you'd get a copy of old school VB these days (though VBA in Office is quite similar). Anyway, VB6 is dead, so you are probably interested in moving on to something modern.

The nice thing about Python is exactly that everyone keeps going on about how awesome it is :) What this means for you is that people have written some really good libraries. Many of them are in the standard distribution and are well-documented. This is what Python people mean by "batteries included".

As for what I'd use for this app... Not sure. I haven't written anything GUI-heavy in a long time. With Java I usually hand-code the GUI, but there might be good visual editors these days. For Python there is an IDE called Boa Constructor which lets you build GUIs. I have not tried it though.


Some really inspiring stuff in here.

My short-term track/running/fitness goals: Break 4 minutes for 1500m, 2:00 for 800m. Currently at 4:06 and 2:00.1 (the latter is so heartbreaking!). Squat 250lbs (currently at 185, weighing 138).

Educational goals: 4 publications in the next two years, complete PhD (CS). Get a solid grasp on differential calculus. Truly understand relativity and quantum mechanics.

Any advice from people who've tackled any of the above is welcome. Thanks.


Well I'm way behind you in the running (I'm attempting to do eight-minute miles) but ahead of you in the relativity and quantum mechanics, so I'll say this: you'll never get a proper understanding by reading popular-science type books. You want to get proper textbooks and work through the problems one by one. I can recommend Understanding Einstein's Relativity" by D'Inverno and Eisberg and Resnick for Quantum Mechanics.

Note: that last one won't get you into really interesting bits like the interpretation* of quantum mechanics, but I think you need to have a thorough understanding of the mathematics before you tackle the philosophical issues.


This is what I was looking for. Thanks so much!


Squatting 250 at 138 lbs bodyweight would be something to be very proud of. I don't have access to my records, but I think my max was about 325 at around 175 lbs bodyweight maintaining very good form and going deep.

There's nothing to it really: squat heavy 2-3 times a week, increase the weight regularly in tiny increments, get plenty of rest, and eat lots of protein. If you're overtraining, drop back to 1-2 times a week.

Weight training is fun because results are directly correlated to how hard you work at it!


Right on. Cheers!


You are a wicked fast runner! I never got below 5:45 for the mile but I enjoy the social aspects of running.

Have you read "Once a Runnner" by John L. Parker? It just got reprinted in paperback.


I haven't, sadly. My coach is reading it now, so hopefully I'll get a loan when he finishes it. And thanks!


Yeah, this is a nice thread. Amazing time on your running! I would like to do 800m under 3:00 minutes. Do you have any advice?


Absolutely. The 800m is primarily an aerobic endeavor, so it is important that you are fit. I'm not sure how much you're running presently, but your goal should be to improve your aerobic fitness: that means easy running at conversational pace, and an occasional harder run of ~20 minutes in duration.

That said, in such a short event, a fair deal of power is required. Thus, doing short hill sprints (from 60-200m) in the months prior to your attempt would be helpful. Be careful to introduce these slowly. Start with only two, and work up to, say, eight over a period of as many weeks.

Finally, interval work is crucial, although one has to be very careful -- too much too soon, and injury is basically guaranteed. Focus on workouts with rest time greater than or equal to your work, like 4-5x400m or 6x200m. You could do one workout a week.

My favorite book is Healthy Intelligent Training by Keith Livingstone. It's an incredible resource. Also, there's a ton of theory on 800m training in the following thread

http://www.letsrun.com/forum/flat_read.php?thread=2669719

Lastly (and most importantly!), get a coach. Good luck to you.


Squatting 250 at 138 while running that fast is a huge feat! good luck.

look into crossfit[crossfit.com] workouts if you haven't already.


I will do that. Thanks!


Moving to New York with my wife and two-year old. We've always wanted to experience the city and it's a major change from where we are now (Maine, 15 minute bike to work along the ocean). It scares the crap out of me but it's important to show my daughter how to have adventures.


Raising our daughter. Current bottleneck: not using potty. Think we'll just have to wait until she's ready though!


I hesitate to suggest parenting techniques, because each child is different. Rather, a story of what works for us: Our son is 10 months old and he uses 1 diaper a day (max). My wife loosely followed the tenets of: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elimination_communication and "The Diaper Free Baby"

Early on you put the child on the potty when they have a high likelihood of needing to pee/poop. You keep a potty nearby, put them on it 10 times a day and make it fun: read books while they sit on it. He learned to associate peeing/pooping with the potty very quickly. After 3 months or so he will now generally wait for the potty. He has his little routine and my wife knows the general times he needs to go and puts him on the pot. He only uses a diaper when in the car or sometimes at night.

EDIT: I forgot to mention that EC/Diaper Free Baby suggest the reason babies commonly pee on you when you remove their diaper is that it goes against their instinct to soil themselves in their diaper. When you remove it, its time to go! The argument is that a baby who is afforded the opportunity to learn to use the potty quickly will be happier. My son is very happy to use the pot. In fact he is sitting on it right now :)


My daughter is almost two and has been using the potty in certain circumstances for 4-5 months. Someone bought her a potty for Christmas and we just left it out until she discovered it, showed her how to use it, and praised the hell out of her when she did. Pretty soon she was asking for it. Now she doesn't wear a diaper around the house and 99% of the time asks to go potty when she needs to. We haven't made the leap to diaperless nights or diaperless trips away from home. Those are major transitions and we don't want to push it since she is young and doing so well.


Do you know all the tips & techniques there are? We've just been going through this with our 2-yr-old for the past 8 months and wouldn't mind sharing what I've learned.

But, I think the best thing we did that actually worked---which we always had been reluctant to trying---was to leave him running around the house butt-naked. The whole apartment has carpet.

Fun times.


My favorite tip for potty training two year olds is to wait until they are 3.


Otherwise known as "No kid has ever gone to their prom in diapers." It'll happen.


I'm not sure if that's effective - we've tried it some, but there doesn't seem to be a connection, yet, to "I should have done that with the potty". People have told us that it sort of happens when they're ready and not earlier, so perhaps it's best not to rush things.


Yes, definitely don't rush it and always be patient. But you may be surprised to find that she actually does make the connection and still refuses to use the potty.


There's actually a sensitive period very early on in a baby's life when you can start to use that technique ("infant potty training").

Your kid is likely simply past that sensitive period.


Yea, and take it easy, they'll learn. Definitely no more diaper during daytime (unless, say, when visiting grandparents with expensive carpets or something).


Publish a book (like on dead trees).

The biggest roadblock for me so far is just having time to execute on it. I have friends who have published books through ORA, so I'm not too concerned about getting proper introductions to people in the tech publishing world; I just don't know if I have the time to sit down and bang out 200 pages of quality material.


Try joining NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month): http://nanowrimo.org

It's a world-wide one-month novel writing sprint, meant to solve the "one day" novel problem ("One day, I'll write a novel"). Though the focus is on novel writing, there's nothing to stop you from working on a non-fiction book.

The in-person write-ins, online community available for short word-count sprints, and other community-momentum / encouragement benefits can be a huge help to anyone who "wants" to find the time to write, but somehow hasn't yet been able to. Single moms with a job succeed at this. You can too!


It's terrible luck, for me, that nanowrimo is always November, which is always end-of-semester crunch time for me.


great suggestion. thanks!


Have you read Stephen King's "On Writing"? The first half is a mixed bag, some good and bad. The second half has some excellent, practical advice in it. Highly recommended.

> I just don't know if I have the time to sit down and bang out 200 pages of quality material.

You can write two pages a day in the morning before work, no problem, very doable. Do that for three months. BAM, book is done. Don't think about the 200 pages, think about the 2 pages. Do the 2 pages. Repeat.


Work starts when I wake up and ends...well, frankly, lately I've been dreaming about my work. I used to have a day job, then I founded a startup, and now I'm contracting/consulting and taking on paying clients for Rails and iPhone work to pay the bills.

That said, I certainly get your point. Thanks for the encouragement.


I'm working on this too.

My general plan goes like this:

2010: Write a book.

2011: Write a good book.

That way I hope to develop the habits required to write huge chunks of material before solving the much harder problem of writing material that doesn't suck.



Becoming a better programmer.

Roadblocks: Lack of self-discipline and commitment (day job providing good money)


Maybe you've seen this from being on HN, but www.structuredprocrastination.com. Try to get busy with "important" things, and you'll find yourself programming more.

One thing I'm starting to do, since I also have a day job, is going to the library for my lunch break (I eat lunch real fast right before I go) which is luckily a few blocks away, with and laptop loaded with Ubuntu to force myself to do some more lisping.

Once I get in the habit I'll be able to work on harder challenges and hopefully become a better programmer.


Thanks for the link. My current structured procrastination is reading HN and lot of technical articles. I think I should stop doing that and start coding more.


Can you get to some specifics about that? That might help you focus a bit as "better programmer" is rather general. What specific areas are you trying to improve?

Also, it might seem that your lack of discipline and commitment comes from complacency due to the day job, but in my case, after being laid-off, I found myself procrastinating just as much (I got all day now right?) so be careful about making any sudden moves in that area.


The Japanese Language Proficiency Test N1. It has been a personal demon of mine for the past five years and I've only recently got the confidence to say that I may one day be able to pass it. Required for post-grad study in a Japanese university or work at a Japanese company (for a foreigner at least).


Don't get killed by a bear or experience any other medical emergency during a week-long, dispersed camping trip in northern California.


Banging pots and pans together will usually scare bears away. If not, just remember you don't have to outrun the bear - you just have to outrun your slowest friend.


I bought an air horn. If I don't need it for bears, it should be a funny alarm clock for my buddies. ;)


As you move through the wilderness, the wildlife around you runs away depending on how loud or out-of-place you are. Think of it as being a really effective animal-chasing flashlight.

In the vast, vast majority of cases, a confrontation with an animal of any size will lead to the animal trying to get the hell out of there as quickly as possible. I've been within 20 feet of big black bears and had coyotes sniff my toes; all I had to do was move a little and they took off. People just like to imagine "confronting" a bear and scaring it away because those few cases get a lot of media attention, and they're exciting.

So try instead to shrink your circle as much as possible and see what you can encounter out there. I like to sometimes find the right sort of spot and sit really quietly for a few hours, to see what comes along.

Tom Brown's books on tracking &etc. are pretty OK and talk about this a bit.


Air horn? get with the times buddy, you need a vuvuzela.


take a vuvuzela


I really like the concept behind this Ask HN, especially the "help someone else in the thread with their goals." I'll definitely try.

Goal: Launch a non-profit student apprenticeship program in partnership with a few corporations.

Roadblock #1: While doing my 9-7 job.

Roadblock #2: A few of my web applications are finally reaching the "need to incorporate" stage. Have very little clue about law and accounting.

Roadblock #3: Have some of the clients/partnerships down, but getting the right students and professionals involved is difficult.


Learn OpenGL so I can finally make those mobile games I've always wanted to. Hangups are thinking in matrices, understanding of the math involved


The math involved for basic 3d is overrated. Just sit down and copy code at first, and write reams of stuff that works. It should be no problem to magpie enough code to get a simple engine together.


Agree. Also, I liked this book: http://www.amazon.ca/Math-Primer-Graphics-Game-Development/d... a lot, even if it's quite basic and not hardcore (i.e. many applied examples rather than formulas and proofs).


Thanks all for the book recommendations!


I found Fundamentals of Computer Graphics by Peter Shirley to be a great intro book. Yes, it's a textbook, but it's one of the better written ones. I like that it also teaches you how to code the algorithms, not just the math behind them. It's not OpenGL-focused though.



To do research in building a consumer behaviour simulator, or more generally a 'society simulator' (simulating a whole city with people in it who have jobs, who are going to restaurants, go shopping, pay taxes, etc...) Meanwhile trying to figure out whether I can create some kind of startup/business out of this.

Bottleneck: My boring day job, which is needed because I have a family to support.


If you're serious about building a business around this (i.e., if you're into the business side of this rather than the pure research side), post a way for me to contact you - we should talk.


Yes I am serious about building a business around this. My strategy is to simulate as much aspect of a virtual person's life as possible, because the simulation of different aspects strengthen each-other, makes the simulation more precise, enables more and more emergent behaviour. On the other hand in the beginning I will mostly try to aim for those aspects which have immediate business value: to simulate consumer behaviour in shops, restaurants, etc...

I happily talk about this with you. My email is:

nadam60 at gmail dot com


Quit smoking cold turkey (was a 1 pack smoker for over 7 years). I am 3 days nicotine free and that sounds very interesting to me.

Roadblocks: they keep selling them...

If someone else is planning the same, the tips at whyquit.com helped me.


This may sound hokey to you, but I quit using an iPhone app called Quit Smoking Now, which is basically just a recorded set of hypnosis tapes. I listened to it one night (~1hr), threw my pack away, and never smoked again. Then there's a second "booster shot" that you listen to over the course of the next couple weeks every night (about 20 mins).

I didn't think it would work, originally, and bought it figuring that for $8, if I just skipped one pack of cigarettes it would've paid for itself. So far, I've gotten a roughly ~400x return on it (1 pack Marlboro Reds/day).


Read the book, Easy Way to Quite Smoking by Allan Carr. http://www.amazon.ca/Easy-Way-Stop-Smoking-Kit/dp/1905555008 It worked for me, my partner, and several of our friends.


It worked for me too. It's like reverse-brainwashing.


Solution: move to NYC. You won't be able to afford them anymore, so you'll have to quit.


Build a successful web app so I can do less consulting.


you should try the challenge at challenge.co for that!


My goal should probably be to finish off my last uni semester coming up as well as possible but much more interested in my startup at the moment.

Another aspect I guess is to get more involved in the Melbourne startup/ coworking community, only had limited contact thus far in what seems to be quiet a large and vibrant scene.


Hey mate, I'm a final semester student doing CompSci at Monash. The melbourne startup scene is awesome! Definitely a lot of experienced and inspirational figures who're willing to give back to community. Would be awesome to catch up in person sometime.


Hitchhike across southern Japan (Honshu mostly)


I hitchhiked around Argentina and Chile 2 years ago, and the experience has been far and away the best thing I've done in my life. I'm currently gearing up for a much longer trip, if I can just figure out where.

My old roommate spent a few weeks hitching around Japan and loved it. He had no trouble at all, and the people were all really nice.

You might want to read Hokkaido Highway Blues if you haven't yet.


to find this surface mount resistor I just dropped.


found it!


The trick is to buy packages of at least 100 so if you drop one you just don't care :-)


Fluent in Japanese.

Roadblock: Day has 24 hours. Need 27.

I blew past the JLPT 2 last year, so this year it's just a matter of finding the time to work on it every day.

Would list my marathon training, but that's too popular as-is. ;p Farthest run has been ten miles so far; I'll get there...


It's time to move to Japan, if you don't live there already. It's the closest you'll get to studying 27 hours a day, and the only sure path to fluency, given the level you're at.


I'm writing this from my tiny apartment in Saitama. :)


Speaking of which, I'm hoping to visit my friend in Singapore in Sept or October, mind if I swing by and crash in your hallway or something? (or meet in Tokyo and show me around? :)


My apartment does have a hallway, in addition to a bedroom and a kitchen. Unfortunately, they're all the same room.

I'd have more space if this place said 'Adidas' on the side.

That said, of course I'll meet you up in Tokyo and show you the city! As long as I'm in-country, of course; I'll be back in the US for August, and I'm not sure where I'll be for October and December.


Oh man if you're going to be in town in August, why don't you plan on crashing at my place for a weekend? I think you'd get along well with my new roommate, and if the timing is right a few other engineers will be in town hanging out as well.


My goal is an online social initiative that changes how people seek and receive real-time help.

A lot of deserving folks without an online voice struggle to put the word out when in need (An urgent need for blood, a sudden need for funds for a critical operation). I'm thinking we can tap into influentials to help spread the word (who can earn karma in return).

Bottleneck: As step 1 in this project, I've launched http://www.saveaplusk.org , but ironically it's suffering from the very same problem I want to solve - I have too small a voice to get the word out.


I am coming from a similar place but not yet launched my site. I have thought about the challenge you describe, and there are many on this site with advice that can help.

Whatever size voice you might have, it is louder when you use it locally. Are you and your friends using it to help people? Are the people then helped not willing to try it?

I can’t see your site from my current location but with local and modest goals you might be surprised who the influentials are and what karma they might really want.


Thanks for your inputs, they're insightful. Tapping into my local network might work only so much in my case - most folks aren't too active on Twitter.

But I'm not going to give this up so easily - i will give it my sincerest shot. I guess the hard part's figuring out what works and what doesn't.


Debt Free


As someone who just managed that this year, a few pointers.

1. Budget. I know it sucks, and I know it is a hassle, still, no way around it. Grab excel or numbers or openOffice and do it start of each month.

2. Split accounts I have used this technique to great success. - 1st account is the "INCOMING" account, This is where all incoming money goes to and all fixed costs (see 1. Budget) go away from. - 2nd account is a "pocket money" account. Pocket money is transferred there. Nice about this: You can spend ALL of this and your bills and food are still paid. - 3rd account is a savings account. Not much to explain here. Make sure to save a good amount.

3. Keep at it

4. Get a seperate wallet for "food and household". I usually get a laugh about this, as it was something our parents used to do. Still, I withdraw cash beginning of the month and pay my groceries from this. Works wonders.

5. Keep at it

6. Use a big chunk from your savings account to remove all remaining debt at once.

7. Enjoy freedom.

I know people will go on about "credit history", "credit rating", etc... However, I plan to nev er go there again.

Best, ::captaink::


#2 is something that I am already in the process of setting up. I am going to leave my main card at home, and then setup standing orders to transfer my pocket money into my new account every week. This seems like the most logical way to reign in unnecessary spending.

The other practice I want to get in the habit of is telling my self that I can only spend money if I have earned it from doing extra work, be it web design, cutting a hedge etc. That should motivate me to get out and about to earn extra on the side.

Its going to be very tough thats for sure, then again some of the happiest times of my life have been when ive been broke.


Great advice. David Ramsey has a bunch of material on getting out of debt and basic money management. It's amazing this isn't skill #1 we teach in school.


Same here. I'm almost there. Selling the car as well, which will help. Then I go travelling on my own.


I want to design and launch a improbably large space-mirror. If it were properly focused on earth (curvature adapting to distance from the planet), and given light-speed delay, we could direct a telescope upon it and see the state of earth 6.52x years ago, where the mirror is x parsecs away from earth.

Roadblock: probably not a scientifically viable proposition, given space debris and lack of ability to build something that large/durable. Solution: write a sci-fi short story with this as a plot element, and call it good.


enough passive income to live on

Tesla Roadster

help a loved one to get cured of a horrible health problem

not necessarily in that order, and not necessarily interesting to others, but they are among my top goals right now


Sail the US east coast down to the caribbean.


When I was a kid I thought of owning all toy robots out there in the market and then observing how they react with each other. I still think it will be a cool goal.


There are some cool things being done in virtual cooperation/teamwork explorations. Make a robot in virtual space and see how it interacts with other robots!


Reduce my earthly possessions to what I could feasibly bring with me on an airline flight, not counting furniture and kitchen supplies and not

Roadblocks: Most books don't exist in ebook form, I don't have an ebook reader, printed books cannot be ripped to disk as easily as CD's and DVD's. I have sentimental attachments to too many items. It seems wasteful to throw away valuable items, but selling them is a hassle.


I want to toboggan/sled in Antarctica. I don't see it happening any time soon, but I should probably go for it while I'm still young and limber.


My goal is to do telecoms work in Antarctica. Let me know :)


"Getting over" my fear of heights. An off-and-on project I've been working on for my entire life.

Roadblocks: Being willing to put myself in feared situations long enough to acclimate to them. I know exposure works for me but it's still very hard as the next goal always seems to be the impossible one. I've been having some success in combining mindfulness techniques with the exposure practice.


2 things I can suggest.

1.) Try setting a goal with someone else, it doesn't have to be the same goal between you, you both basically have to spot eachother and make sure one another do what they require themselves to do. That said you could do both goals together doubling your experiences.

2.) I have a fear of heights too. However, the way I've tackled it was with indoor rock climbing, which transfered to outdoor freeclimbing, and once I lose the weight, skydiving next year.


Good suggestions. Thanks!


Learn to sail and buy a boat. Ultimately I want to do solo expeditions. Inspiration -> http://www.bigoceans.com/

My biggest roadblock is that I'm broke. I haven't really started on this goal in earnest yet. My intention is to finish my PhD by the end of the year and then freelance for a while to earn enough money for lessons and boat.


My most interesting goal right now is to try to make the time to start moving off of Microsoft development technology. I like C#, but ASP.NET annoys me and the whole platform feels like a massive dead end unless I want to work on boring corporate stuff.

My primary roadblock there is trying to decide what tech I want to pick up. Ruby and Rails are appealing, Python looks interesting, and I wonder if I shouldn't be looking at some new stuff like Clojure or node.js as well. I also wonder if I shouldn't get into some of the evented frameworks like Tornado or EventMachine. This has always been my problem -- I'm interested in too many aspects of technology and there's just no time to pursue them all.

My secondary roadblock, once I decide on a tech, is getting some good documentation and perhaps some mentoring on it. Some of those frameworks seem to be pretty lacking in good documentation and examples.


After completing a compiler/language and used it for the ICFP contest i'm now thinking of making a debugger/ide for it.


My current life goals are to run a marathon this summer (I'm running a half marathon this month) and to practice yoga daily. I've also been working on a project to help people accomplish their life goals: http://yana.com If you want to check it out, the beta code is "ycnews"


Hack a gibson...


My first thought was "Hackers" (the movie). I am appropriately ashamed :)


Mine too, along with the infamous (at least among my friends) quote: "NO ONE Hacks the Gibson!"


nothing is impossible when sleeping with angelina jolie is on the line


les paul or an SG?


not sure, but I'm sure one I find it I can use the PW god to get in. There will be flashy colors.


Raise a million for charity, preferable a research-oriented one.



good luck with the extra pepper !


Finishing my PhD.


Awww.


I can't tell if you're trying to say that my goal is adorable or disappointing or that I'm a young'un or what.


Trying to figure out the best way to pitch an idea to Google Australia to create a new job role for me in Melbourne (the only Australian Google office is in Sydney) in an area they don't currently cover ... oh and I'm not currently a Google employee.


Lars Bak managed to do it :-)


I am still in a job that I hated like anything when I had to join it two year ago. I couldn't join Grad school this summer due to lack of money. So here are my goals in order of priority: 1. Build a small webapp so that first of all I can quit my job and have time to hack on what I like. 2. Get admission to a good Grad school next fall with full funding. 3. loose all the fat (a lot of it) that I have gained in past few years. 4. Make extra money to buy a Royal Enfield Bullet classic (any MotorCycle enthusiasts from India here ?) and go on a countrywide motorcycle trip of India.


Should have started long back ....but better late than never.


@Vineet you can try doing some research, Grad Schools value that a lot. You can try joining some research institute in india (I know they are rare) and have at least a paper submitted before you apply A good idea would be to target WWW 2011 conference which is going to take place in hyderabad,

In my case I had 2 international publication in a reputed International chemical engineering journal on topics related to machine learning which helped me a lot despite of poor grades,

you can try applying to universities like NCSU, UNCC which are decent also provide good support,


As a reference point have a look at profile of my friend who is doing PhD on a full schol and is from a decent school (not IIT) http://www.linkedin.com/in/nmahatme he had done research while doing undergraduate degree and he got direct admit to PhD


Move to San Francisco with my girlfriend, legally (we're Canadian). I can start a company w/ US friends that will sponsor me for a visa / work permit.

Her situation is the biggest roadblock - she didn't graduate from college (a big strike in the DHS's eyes) and has been self-employed as an esthetician for most of her career.

While she'd be open to working for someone else in the US, getting a visa for her will be tough without the college degree. And her preference is not to work for someone else so she can continue to run her practice while starting a skincare product line biz.


Can she be a partner in your company too?


good thought. probably, though getting her a visa through my company or someone else's is still the biggest challenge as she doesn't have a college degree.


Learn to be happy.

"Satisfied with my lot" is probably a better term. Life is excellent except for the 5% of my brain that sees the bleak side of everything.

The main roadblock is the common depression / bipolar type II episodes.


Meditate! You will be happier, calmer and more focused. There are many meditations out there - be promiscuous and try out as many as you can. You will then be able to figure out what works best for you.


Have you tried meditation? Specifically vipassana or zen meditation are probably good ways to start tackling the whole package...


Develop a programming language which allows you to easily write inline grammars then use them and mutate them at compile- and run-time. Additionally have a nice (default) syntax, nice support for concurrency (I'm thinking something similar to goroutines), and actually try to make the language reasonably popular (the most insane of my goals).

Roadblocks: Myself, more than anything. So hard to work on something a. so big, and b. in spare time when I so often feel like chilling out!


Trying to figure out if my dream job really exists anywhere.

I am trying to move from pure coding to a job that combines coding with traveling and dealing directly with technical stakeholders. It seems in most companies the people who are responsible for the latter do very little, if any, of the former.

Figure I will put another 1-3 years trying to find this position at an existing company, and if that doesn't pan out, I'll just start my own company designed around letting me do exactly that. :)


I had that gig for a while.

I was a consultant working on Business Intelligence and found a niche in automating rights management.

After a couple of years the travel got old (and there were some not fun projects in there too).


Yes, the verticals that are likely to feel like bankrolling all the traveling tend to be the larger corporate ones - the ones who are in the Business of Business, especially.

Not saying there aren't fascinating problems to solve in there as well, but you're right, there can be a lot of churn...


$10k/mo passive income


Same. Running a business is not easy, but it's the easiest way to get there IMO.

It takes like 5-10M in capital to make 10k/mo "safely" on a long term basis now, which rules out an investment-only strategy for almost everybody.


Why do you need five million dollars for that?


It's hard to live off passive investment income b/c world governments are intent on shafting savers to bail out the debtor majority. "High yield" FDIC-insured savings accounts pay like 1.2% now in nominal terms but their return will surely be negative in real terms.


Completing my CompSci degree and Financial Independence within 12 months.

Roadblocks: Psychological.

Bottlenecks: A boring regular job (partial financial independence) is an easier option.


What year in college are you now? Is 12-months on track to graduate with a CS degree?


Monash University, I finish in 4 months.


Funding & national media attention for my political accountability startup. http://votereports.org/ (next 6 months)

Partner with a certain local government agency to make a major user-facing improvement. (next 2 years)

Start a school using an the updated version of the monitorial/lancasterian system of education. (next 20 years)


Summer: learn prereq material including functional programming and basic ai for an ai course that I want to take in the fall.

Life 1: live with less (stuff)

Life 2: meet a girl

As far as progress... I've started on Summer's, but I'm not as far as I hoped. Currently working on SICP. Life 1 is actually progressing, as very often I find things that I can get rid of and not miss. Life 2... not yet..


Becoming an attorney, without an undergraduate degree or going massively into debt. This is possible in California, although it's difficult and the career prospects are limited, given an abundant supply of competitors for a shrinking number of openings. Fortunately (?) I love law more than I love money.


Become a 4 dan go player. Recently ordered a lot of new problems & other study material to try to get there.


What's your present rank? I'm not devoting much time to it right now, but I'm trying to go from 10k -> 5k. (My efforts were re-invigorated when I got the iPad app from Many Faces of Go).


I've hit 3 dan before, but right now I'm probably a weak 2 dan. Life & Death is the key, so hopefully running through a thousand fresh problems will do the trick! If you do the same, you can do a lot better than 5k :)


Are either of you going to be at the go congress in August?


Become an awesome martial arts trickster!

http://trickstutorials.com


I'm preparing to start the application process to the United States Air Force Officer Training School to be commissioned as a 17D - Cyber Operations officer.

Roadblocks are the back log to even talk to a recruiter, and the extremely long and thorough application process. Someone help!


Going into the wilderness to meditate and attain nirvana. No I'm not joking. I've got a tent ready, I've read the Samyutta Nikaya (Connected Discourses of the Buddha), and I'm going to the Ansel Adams Wilderness near a stream, under a tree or overlooking a cliff.


My goal at the moment is to put a product out on the market. I've made a lot of free/open source/one-off projects that had potential to go further with a little investment. I'm currently taking one design, and getting it on shelves, being sold in stores.


turning my ventures profitable enough to do whatever I want, whenever and wherever I want. Then do a couple of Kids. If I could just find out how to do tweens, priceless.

Bottleneck: have two kids at once, and gain some 2 years (time between first and second kid)


Solution: Two mothers.


yeah, great idea, but big cons: that's probably the fastest way to not see my kids grow, and loose my wife.


I want to participate in Volvo Ocean Race.

Currently I am learning Python and Django and waiting for the Drupal 7 release to create a project. I hope it makes enough money that I can relocate to somewhere in Scandinavia preferably Finland.


I just started running about 14 weeks ago. I'm 26, 27 in October. I just ran my first half marathon (13.1 miles), and I'm aiming to run 30 miles when I turn 30. I'd like to do it in a respectable time too.


I want to present at SXSW. I couldn't tell you precisely why, I just think it's a great conference and I love to share knowledge. The free badge wouldn't hurt.

ROADBLOCK: honing in on a subject. I can only submit one proposal (which is due tomorrow), or, hope to get picked for someone else's panel. Here are potential panel ideas:

- Website Optimization Basics: I wrote a post a few months back that was popular on HN, about how I reduced page load time by 75% (http://www.kadavy.net/blog/posts/wordpress-optimization-drea...). I would boil down the technical jargon to simple language. It would be a dual presentation with the engineer that gave me most of the advice I used.

- Reverse-Engineering Visual Design: I would explain some of the classic principles and methods that designers use to make the decisions they do when designing for the web. I presented on this at BarCamp Chicago a couple of years ago (http://www.kadavy.net/blog/posts/design-for-the-coders-mind-...), so I have something to start with, but it still needs more juice.

- Everything You Already Know About SEO: the basics of SEO are stupidly simple, and widely known, but there are many misconceptions and unknowns. I would condense and explain all of the best practices and things that we do know about SEO, and how to use them to grow your business.

- How to Get a Date Online: I have an alter-ego through which I give online dating tips (http://onlinedatingmatchmaker.com). I would talk about how to best represent the interesting aspects about yourself, present communication techniques for opening with matches and securing dates, and present data from studies that suggest provocative things, such as why you should lie on your online dating profile (http://www.onlinedatingmatchmaker.com/lie-online-dating-prof...). I actually got a personal message from Hugh Forrest only minutes after submitting this presentation idea last year - about how much he liked the idea - but I guess it didn't make it through the selection process.

Another ROADBLOCK is my relative lack of speaking experience. I find it hard to get motivated about smaller speaking opportunities like BarCamp or Peca Kucha, so I'm not sure where to find mid-level speaking opps to hone my chops.

A BOTTLENECK is my relative lack of notoriety, or having a "thing." As you can see a variety of topics interest me, but I can't yet be thought of as "the four-hour workweek guy" or "the personal finance guy"

Any advice, or opinions on which panel I should propose, would be appreciated! Thanks - I love this thread!


I'd say talk about "Reverse-Engineering Visual Design". As a coder who understands some of the basic principles of design but just can't seem to make it click, that would be the most interesting for me.

Optimization and SEO are nice, but if you don't have a solid design they're not that useful.


Get my "C" rating in Foil at a USFA-sanctioned fencing tournament.


Get back into amateur bodybuilding and compete in another show.


My most recent life goal is to learn how to shave with a straight razor... Don't ask me why, just seems like a cool skill to learn and someday pass down to my sons.


I expressed interest in same. My wife bought me a nice introductory model (german-made) but the pressure required (and angle of attack at my throat!!!) to get any hairs cut scares the dickens out of me. Now it is slowly rusting in my bathroom...


Exactly why I've been putting it off. I thought about paying an old school barber for an hour of his time to show me the ropes and the "gotchas"


So long as his name is not Sweeny :)


Get a programming gig in the UK. Roadblocks: (1) Language barrier, my spoken English is not as good as it should. (2) Non working experience in the country.


To be honest, my primary goal in life is to be a saint. Second to that is helping others with the same.

Roadblocks: Human nature. But grace overcomes that.


Stop consultancy work and focus on product building, move to Berlin (happening in a few weeks) and learn German upto A2 level.


I guess Facebook will reveal these details.


Goal: Moving to Lapland.

Roadblock: There are no job opportunities for a software developer in that area.


I want to start my own private equity firm, and then my own Fortune 500 company.

Sky's the limit, right?


Spend more time lurking on hacker news.

...oops, I posted, guess every goal has some setbacks.


To write business book management lessons I learned while working for Oprah.

Bonus: My NDA


Fully realize who I am, what I have, and what I am capable of.


Check out the book Zen and the Art of Making a Living by Laurnce G. Boldt. I just finished reading it and it's really inspiring/helpful in that regard.


That looks interesting... funnily enough zen is my current practice, and it's impact on my living has been and continues to be profound.


Play more hockey.


Antigravity boots. Funding. Gravity.


not exactly a life goal , but my next personal goal is to get my padi divemasters certification.


To make something people love.


You do that every day...


How so?


Look in the mirror. (apologies for the glibness)


get independient


Contemplating how to ask a girlfriend of 2 years how to take it to the next step when her view has been soured by a late parental divorce.


Asking someone to marry you (I assume that's what the next step is- maybe it's something else) when you don't know what the answer will be pretty much only happens in movies. And it's not a good idea.

I was just at a friend's wedding last weekend, am engaged myself, and four other friend pairs are also engaged. In all of these cases, we discussed marriage extensively with our partners before anyone was officially asked. We all knew what the answer was going to be.

If you want to consider going to the next step, you should bring up marriage casually in conversation. If she sounds like she's just not into it, she's either going to say no, or say yes because of pressure when she doesn't really mean it.


Just discuss it with her openly, not every marriage proposal needs to be about kneeling and stuff (that would probably just freak her out). Talk about it.


Take tiny steps. But my guess is that after 2 years she might even wonder why you have not asked her already; I would sure wonder and I am pretty sure her girlfriends wonder.Maybe ask her where she sees the 2 of you 1 year from now? The good news is she might be more ready than you think. The bad news you might find out over the next several months that you desire different things.


Interesting, I'm in kind of the opposite situation:

I recently asked my very excellent girlfriend of 5 years said question. I procrastinated so long at least partially due to residual trauma from an early parental divorce (plus the subsequent decades of court battles and screaming).

My fiancee's approach was a combination of patience and understanding for 4 years, then basically telling me my time was up. The latter strategy wouldn't have worked without the former.

One thing I'm certainly glad we did is to talk about it honestly and deeply before taking the plunge. I doubt I would have been able to work up the courage to do it otherwise.

If marriage is important to you, tell her so, and give you reasons why.


I was with my wife for 14 years before we got married. No need to rush it ;^).


To be the man who donates the most and the man who owns the least, at the same time.

Bottlenecks: My empathy is ridiculed by the way I live. I believe I can make more of a difference in a position of power then if I just move somewhere and work as a volunteer for the rest of my life. Though to get to power I have to live in this world which I hate.


Know Life.


One day I might understand that


To write a novel.

Bottleneck: Lack of discipline, perhaps also lack of life experience to make it truly meaningful and classic and maybe also lack of other softer skills such as how to convey in writing different accents or manners of speaking of different people.


As a roadblock helper:

Have you heard of Nanowrimo? http://www.nanowrimo.org/ People get together and write an entire novel over November (50,000 words). I have actually done it twice.

You're probably thinking of saying something like "how can you ever write a good novel in just a month?" The point of Nanowrimo, though, is to get you to ignore your internal critic.

The reason that everyone wants to write a novel, but people rarely get too far (and I can see this in your comment) is because people are too concerned with writing the best possible novel they can write, and let down when it doesn't come out that way. This is why people run into writer's block: they endlessly self-criticize, and they can't sneak out a word past their highly critical self.

Do Nanowrimo. Write the worst novel in the world, if that's what it takes. But you need to get rid of your internal critic. Or at least silence him until the editing stage. Then he can come out and go on a rampage. But he is useless when you are trying to brainstorm. You'll never get anywhere if you set out to make a meaningful, classic book.


Thank you. I suppose it might be of help to many people, but, I would not fancy the pressure.

I am not being stopped by an internal critic. I have written a bit and I quite like what I have write, I was very much pleasantly surprised in fact. I do think though that if it will give me full satisfaction I should perhaps learn of ways of speaking by different people and also I plan to take some acting classes which might be of help.

But yeh I do think I will need some time, I think it will be a life project and probably never be published. I don't want to be a writer. I enjoy writing though, a lot, especially when you at some point you are not really the writer but witnessing and thinking wow where on earth did that come from, its coool!

How did your novels go though?


Just recommended NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) in another thread.: http://nanowrimo.org

It's a world-wide one-month novel writing sprint, meant to solve the "one day" novel problem ("One day, I'll write a novel"). The in-person write-ins, online community available for short word-count sprints, and other community-momentum / encouragement benefits can be a huge help to anyone who "wants" to find the time to write, but somehow hasn't yet been able to.

Their forums are filled with great advice on how to improve dialogue, convey more realistic characters, etc.


Heh, seems like we both recommended nanowrimo at the same time :)


Attempting to get TX/RX Labs (http://www.txrxlabs.org), the first hackerspace in Houston, up and going. I've had lots of fun attempting to get a lawyer so we could get our 501(c)3 in the hopes that we can also get a larger workspace. I have gotten the webservers and website up in the nick of time, and I've got a bunch of stickers and t-shirts I will be selling at the Next HOPE and at DEFCON 18 for the group, and adding a party/membership drive in Houston on the same weekend as HOPE will probably get us enough members to get over a vital hump so we can offer more to our members.

I also get to go through the same drill with Locksport International (http://www.locksport.com). In fact, visit the Lockpicking Village at The Next HOPE and DEFCON, or Security Snobs (http://www.securitysnobs.com) and buy some lockpicks or t-shirts to help your fellow hackers!


1) Overcome my periods of overwhelming lack of passion and focus, that could potentially be rooted in some medical things

2) Write a few philosophical fiction books

3) Run a Micro ISV while I'm writing those books :)

I guess none of these are unique to us all here, but they're my current life goals.


My goal is to create a new programming language (sort of - in so far as I can talk about it). If monetized properly it would be worth billions. Questions is, should I incubate it myself, which will take longer, but be very financially rewarding, or work on it openly so that better minds than mine can make it better - but then no money for me... (except perhaps on the conference circuit!)


Is this a joke, or what?


No. What part do you find funny/absurd?


You think you can make billions on a programming language? The only popular language that I can think of that isn't free is C#, so people are going to have options.

You talk about it as though it would be easy, but promotion, debugging, libraries, support, tutorials, HOLY SHIT it's not easy.


Well either I'm stupid and/or completely inexperienced, or I have a really good system. I take it you assumed the former. :-) Thank you for answering. I initially thought you were saying that the "go for money vs go for open source" question was a joke.


Just sounds like you have a bad case of "shit's easy" syndrome, as Yegge said when I was reading him yesterday.


Never said it was going to be easy. My question, in fact, was whether I should have it take longer by doing it myself, or open it up to the community to get it done faster.


Good luck...




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