I've experienced managers like that, but both their careers and their organizations were harmed by their lack of emotional intelligence. I don't think that it is accurate to say software development doesn't require emotional intelligence.
It's worth noting that emotional intelligence doesn't mean someone is kind and good. Emotional intelligence can also allow people to be manipulative too. That can be perhaps even more harmful to employees than an emotionally unintelligent manager, but usually such a manager can be very successful and effective for their organization.
It's worth noting that emotional intelligence doesn't mean someone is kind and good. Emotional intelligence can also allow people to be manipulative too. That can be perhaps even more harmful to employees than an emotionally unintelligent manager, but usually such a manager can be very successful and effective for their organization.