> people acquire the grammar for a language in a certain particular order, independent of the order in which is is presented
I didn't know about this. It sure makes sense. Do you know of any institute, course, or individual that makes use of this fact in order to optimize for learning a new language?
I need to learn German, and let's just say that I find the traditional learning methods almost impossible. And I have been living in a German-speaking country for over 5 years now.
Like read books or have someone tutor me? Right now I spend zero time doing this. I just gave up. I tried but nothing stuck, and it was so difficult for me on an intellectual level that quite literally after one hour of study I was so mentally worn out that I could not do my job. I had to sleep through the rest of the day and I literally felt like I was going crazy.
I don't get it, I can learn (and remember) a new programming language and have some practical level of competency in hours (even with Haskell, actually, Haskell was one of the easier languages), but with real languages I am totally inapt.
In school I studied 8 years of French, two or three classes per week, and it was a real course, nothing leisurely, lots of homework. But I can't speak a single word of French. Believe me, I worked really hard those 8 years just to get a passing grade, and if I weren't exceptional at Physics (won 1st prize at the National Physics Olympiad, and many other national contests), I'm pretty sure my teacher would have failed me.
I spoke my first word while being 3 months old, and at 6 months I was using coherent sentences and engaging in conversation with people. I guess I used up all my language acquisition skills in that stage of development.
Acquiring languages isn't about going through books and studying—these are methods that adults can use to make use of the metalinguistic knowledge acquired from their native language. There's a pretty good popular-science book on the topic, Becoming Fluent: How Cognitive Science Can Help Adults Learn a Foreign Language, by Richard Roberts and Roger Kreuk (MIT Press, 2015). https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-Fluent-Cognitive-Science-Lan...
People acquire languages, they don't study them. Study is just a way of speeding the process—with immersion you can gain a huge amount of passive knowledge of a language without any study or realizing you are doing so. Questions like "what books are you studying" or "how many hours did you do grammar drills" aren't very useful. I suspect that the typical high school foreign-language study is a sneaky way of enforcing the US as a society of Anglophone monolinguals. If the US wanted a multilingual population, they would permit dual-language immersion elementary schools, but those have only been popping up in the last decade or so.
How much time do you spend fumbling around in German without falling back on English? How often do you try to communicate with German monolinguals? Is your main problem comprehension or production? If you've been living in a German-speaking country for 5 years, your passive knowledge of German is probably better than you think. The heart of a language is in its words more than its grammar, but there are just a lot of them.
> Acquiring languages isn't about going through books and studying [...] People acquire languages, they don't study them.
I know. Absolutely agree.
> There's a pretty good popular-science book on the topic, Becoming Fluent: How Cognitive Science Can Help Adults Learn a Foreign Language, by Richard Roberts and Roger Kreuk (MIT Press, 2015).
Thanks, I will check it out.
> Is your main problem comprehension or production?
I think my main problem is production.
> If you've been living in a German-speaking country for 5 years, your passive knowledge of German is probably better than you think.
You might be right, I know a lot of words. When it comes to cooking stuff, sometimes I know words my german-speaking friends don't know (I like to cook and buy lots of less-than-usual ingredients).
> The heart of a language is in its words more than its grammar, but there are just a lot of them.
As a native German speaker I would say that grammar plays a much larger role in German than in English and I personally cannot even imagine how one can learn German without grasping the grammar (I wrote more about that in https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12328906 and https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12243298). So my recommendation is (as I wrote in https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12196101) to do brute training on the grammar until you are very confident that you know it inside out, since otherwise you will always have to stop in the middle of a sentence how this verb is conjugated or this adjective + noun is conjugated - not good for fluent conversation.
EDIT: I have read multiple times that many people have problems with learning German on Duolingo since there is too less focus on grammar. Doing this might work for English and perhaps for Spanish but surely not for German.
I sincerely doubt you spoke your first word at 3 months old, and there's no way in hell you were using coherent sentences at 6 months old.
That being said. Have you tried Duolingo? It's free, and it's less than 10 minutes a day. So even if you don't learn a single german word (i've learnt enough in a year doing 10 minutes of german a day to teach my 3 year old a fair bit, and read basic kids books to him) at least you won't be so frustrated that you have to sleep for the rest of the day.
> Have you tried Duolingo? It's free, and it's less than 10 minutes a day.
Thanks, no, I haven't heard of this. I will try it for sure!
> I sincerely doubt you spoke your first word at 3 months old, and there's no way in hell you were using coherent sentences at 6 months old.
When my grandmother told me this, I called total bullshit. But then I asked around and all my relatives and neighbours corroborated this. Since this was so unusual, they were so impressed at the time that they could remember specific conversations we supposedly had. Yes, parents and auts exagerate these things, but random neighbours?
I still found this hard to believe, but there are documented cases about people doing this[1].
I was a very gifted child, I learned to read somewhere around two years of age by studying the book while my mother or grandmother read to me. I also learned arithmetic by watching people use cash at the store. Numbers were so fascinating to me that somehow my parents got me a cash register to play with.
These things I remember clearly. Nobody thought me these things, I figured them out myself.
I was fascinated with money. I had a bank (actually my cash register) where my mother would put all the change. I charged a fee for both deposit and withdrawl, but I paid interest too. I cut all the coupons from newspapers and magazines, and demanded that my parents use them. All the savings from the coupons went to me, and from that revenue stream I payed my parents compound interest.
I also had a store where every product cost $1. We would go to the supermarket, and buy all kinds of household stuff that then I resold to my parents for real cash. I kept very good records for my bank and for my store. It felt very important to me that every transaction be recorded. I always gave to the customers carbon copies, so they had a record too.
Maybe I should start a business instead of doing this computer nonsense.
Unfortunately my grandmother thought I had autism rather than exceptional intelligence, and dragged me from psychologist to psychologist, who gave me all kinds of tests. They started with IQ tests (always scored over 160), but once they found I was gifted, they put me do all other kind of tests relevant to their current research. My grandmother was not happy they didn't really treat me, so she sent me to various psychiatrists instead.
My family pretended we were really, really poor, even though we were not, and didn't buy me the books and computers I needed. They sent me to a school full of stupid, violent, and quite literally criminal children.
By age 8 or 9 I have mastered feynman lectures of physics and I was studying particle physics. But I was slowed down by the lack of books and learning material.
I hated school. What a waste of my life. I stumble upon all these child prodigies who finished college at 12 while I had to endure that stupid school and lacked the most basic education appropiate for myself.
Remembering all this made me feel depressed, so I will stop now. There was a point I was trying to make (how I learn everything by myself, inductive and top-down, and how it's hard to learn bottom-up), but it's too difficult to write all this.
You're too arrogant. If you want to learn another language, you need to be humble. Fix that and go out and speak with your fellow Germans: poorly at first, but with time you will do better.
I think this is exceptionally good advice, but phrased in a way that I can't imagine it being accessible to the target audience. People who feel they are smart are often stymied when they run into their own humanity. It's a journey of discovery. Embracing failure is hard, humbling and for some people literally humiliating. That the humiliation is healthy is something that takes time to understand ;-)
Yeah, and especially when learning a language....because you are going to make mistakes, and people will laugh at you. You may have the experience of talking to a 4-year-old, and realizing the child can speak better than you can.
But you humble yourself, keep going, and then you learn the language.
Why do you want to converse with people in German, rather than English? If you don't have a satisfactory answer to that question, you probably won't be able to speak German. "Because I think I should" is not motivating.
People learn languages best by simply listening to others talk. Hang out with folks that are speaking German. Tell them you want to hear no English at all, all night. Do this for a few weeks, maybe months, and you'll be speaking German soon.
Edit: Maybe I should add that you should focus on comprehension before speaking. Try to simply understand what other people are saying, first. While at an intermediate level, you'll find that you can understand a friend well, but a stranger almost not at all. It'll take some time listening to a variety of people before you can understand many speaking patterns.
There is the theory that areas of our brain that were used for language acquisition as young children are "repurposed" as we age. From an evolutionary perspective, it is advantageous to commit a lot of brainpower to acquiring language initially, but thereafter this is not a particularly critical skill (esp. in traditional small monolingual communities). So I'd suggest that in your case this process has just been carried out to an extreme degree.
I also had 13 years of french instruction and even lived with a francophone girlfriend for several years. I never learned to speak french. On the other hand, I have learned Japanese as an adult without taking any courses.
There are 2 main things to understand. First is that it takes a very long time to learn a language. Many people completely underestimate the task. From the age of 3 years old, humans acquire about 1000 word "families" per year (police, policeman, police truck, policing would all be one word "family". Conjugation (even irregular) is counted in a word family too). This happens up until they are 20. Most university educated adults have more than 25,000 word families in their vocabulary. Even at 5 the average 5 year old has 5,000 word families in their vocabulary.
While you may have been an early developer with language, I think it is likely that your impression of your early abilities is hampering your current development -- mainly because it sets unreasonable expectations. At 6 months old, you may have had a vocabulary of 500-1000 words (it is not unheard of). Most children usually have a vocabulary of 1500 word families by the age of 3 and 5000 by the age of 5.
I recommend talking to 3 year olds and 5 year olds. Their command of their native language is truly awful. And yet, instructors of various languages imply (and sometimes outright say) that their course with 500 words of vocabulary (and a smattering of grammar) will allow you to "learn" the language. Adult level fluency is somewhere on the order of 15,000 word families. Even advanced learners with 7-10K words of vocabulary often can not understand movies without subtitles!
The main problem that people tend to have is that there is a huge disconnect between what they expect to accomplish in a short time frame and what they actually can accomplish. People bandy around ideas like "You can have adult like fluency with 2000 words of vocabulary", but it is absolutely wrong.
Basically, if you learn 20 new words a day (which is not unreasonable with spaced repetition software), you can get to 15K words in 3-5 years but you have to study every single day without a break. More likely is that you can reach that kind of level in about the same time a child can -- 15 years.
Second issue is grammar. There are only about 1500 grammar rules in a typical language. You can rip through them in much less than a year. At this point you will have a fascinating understanding of the language and still be unable to order a drink at a fast food restaurant.
Language acquisition is different than learning (I think this is now the accepted theory, but it's actually a fairly recent development -- in the last 30 years or so). Originally people thought that you memorised language and then practiced it to get faster and faster. Current theory suggests that acquired language springs to mind without pre-planning (we have an associative memory after all). When you are in the correct context (i.e. you want to say something), the correct thing just pops in to your head. Similarly, when you listen to something, understanding occurs without logical analysis. If you have learned language, you are essentially using look up tables and logic to divine the meaning. If you have acquired language, then you go straight from language to meaning (or vice versa).
Studying grammar helps you learn grammar, but does not necessarily help with acquisition. The current accepted theory is that repeated exposure to language that you can understand (usually from context) leads to acquisition.
So what are the practical tips? First, having a course 2-3 times a week will lead to exactly the result you have described: you will not learn the language. You must study every single day (well, my experience has been that 5 days a week will still lead to very slow progress, 4 days will keep you at a standstill and anything less than that will be a treadmill of instantly forgetting what you learned).
Study does not need to be the kind of study you are used to. The absolute best way to learn a language (according to the literature) is free reading. Pick up something you want to read and read it. It should be level appropriate... which is a pain for any language other than English (for which there are about a billion graded readers).
I have found an interesting technique (which I did independently, but later found that it is a very common technique ;-) ). Pick up any book/magazine/whatever that you want to read. Skim it and write down any word you don't know. When you get to 20, look them all up in the dictionary. Use whatever technique you like (spaced repetition software is awesome) to memorise the definitions of the words. Once they are memorised, read the passage again. If you still can't understand it, look up any potential grammar issues in a grammar dictionary. Write down the sentence with the grammar you want to learn along with your own translation of the sentence (after you puzzle it out). Memorise that sentence. Rinse and repeat.
If you are the kind of person who doesn't mind rote work, you can simply memorise all the example sentences in a grammar dictionary (or text book -- although text books suck for the most part). But you still need to do free reading to encounter it in the wild.
For listening, watch TV (or video web sites). For speaking, I have 2 techniques. Read and memorise songs for any genre of music that you like using the technique above. Get recordings of those songs. Sing along. The other technique is to find a news web site that has video news stories as well as a printed version of the story. Read the story. Listen to the story. Then try to read the story at the same time as the news reporter. Try to match pacing, intonation, etc exactly. You can record your voice and compare with the original.
Finally, you need conversation partners. If you live in a large city, you will almost certainly be able to find language meetups in your area. Go and chat with people. Otherwise, there are language exchange websites where you use skype or whatever to chat to people. Being a fluent English speaker will guarantee that you can find as many partners are you like.
Hope that helps! I've had success with these techniques myself, and I have taught them to my students when I was teaching English as a foreign language. I find them very effective. Just temper your expectations and never take a day off. Also realise that courses can never teach you a language because the language is too huge. They best they can do is teach you techniques that will allow you to learn a language. If you are taking a course and it is all about the content, find another course.
No, I can't speak a single word. I try to remember words, but it's just nothing there. I can't think of a single word.
If you show me some simple words, I can probably remember what some of them mean, but I can't retrieve any word from my mind. It's just like the sensation where you want to say something, but can't remember a word, and you try real hard to remember that word. Except that's all I feel, only that sensation. There are no words I can remember.
Of course now I opened a french website, and tried to read it. Yes, I recognise some words, and there is even a minimal level of understanding. But I could not think of those words before reading the text.
I didn't know about this. It sure makes sense. Do you know of any institute, course, or individual that makes use of this fact in order to optimize for learning a new language?
I need to learn German, and let's just say that I find the traditional learning methods almost impossible. And I have been living in a German-speaking country for over 5 years now.