So you reached out and I appreciate that and wanted to thank you for it. I think trying to help people with comments like this is one of the great things of this particular forum.
That said, there's no particular sadness for me with regard to this. I was trying to point out, though, that the calculus isn't money then kids, it's also time and health. All those things ought to be weighed, particularly if you're in a position in your younger years to choose to have kids or wait (or try, as your case and many of my friends' point out, not everyone will be successful). In my case, I skipped relationships in my 20s because of my issues with depression. If I couldn't hold myself together emotionally, I didn't need to be in a serious relationship. I tried that, it was disastrous for everyone involved. Once I got my head on straight a few years ago I opened myself up to it again.
But I also want to say, thanks for being open to adoption. My girlfriend is adopted, as are several of my other good friends. People who are willing to take on children not their own, and provide them with good, loving families, are among the best, in my book. I wish more of my friends in your situation shared your willingness.
That said, there's no particular sadness for me with regard to this. I was trying to point out, though, that the calculus isn't money then kids, it's also time and health. All those things ought to be weighed, particularly if you're in a position in your younger years to choose to have kids or wait (or try, as your case and many of my friends' point out, not everyone will be successful). In my case, I skipped relationships in my 20s because of my issues with depression. If I couldn't hold myself together emotionally, I didn't need to be in a serious relationship. I tried that, it was disastrous for everyone involved. Once I got my head on straight a few years ago I opened myself up to it again.
But I also want to say, thanks for being open to adoption. My girlfriend is adopted, as are several of my other good friends. People who are willing to take on children not their own, and provide them with good, loving families, are among the best, in my book. I wish more of my friends in your situation shared your willingness.