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True. But from about 9 months you could both work say 3 days a week if you wanted.

Mind you if you have another child you'd have to do that again.

But good luck getting well paid 3 days a week work for both of you.




> But from about 9 months you could both work say 3 days a week if you wanted.

TERRIBLE advice. In all things gender and money, Penelope Trunk is a goto: http://blog.penelopetrunk.com/2013/01/07/how-to-pick-a-husba...

> Don’t tell me that you want your husband to work part-time, because aiming for the impossible 50/50 split leads to divorce. First, because it’s the road to eternal poverty; part-time jobs are low pay, without advancement, and they are the first to go when it’s time to cut jobs. So you create massive financial instability by having two people work part-time.


You are correct! People are so stupid when it comes to these gender discussions. I'm glad my wife and I have a traditional household. It works great and both of us are happy. Good luck to those with the "eye for an eye" mentality. You will never be happy.


> Good luck to those with the "eye for an eye" mentality.

It's about what you put in, not what you get out.

> You will never be happy.

This is where I think people mess up. They think that relationships somehow magically equate to an immediate jump from miserable to bliss. This couldn't be further from the truth. You need to find your own happiness before someone else can step into your life and make it blissful.


Yeah, we are going to do some of those work schedule things as we go forward (we are also going to do daycare).

It is just hard because the caregiving pattern is already established.




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