On: She’ll Text Me, She’ll Text Me Not

[aninhumer]

I strongly agree with this criticism of the language (I winced reading it), but I also agree that the way it was criticised here was unnecessarily inflammatory.

There are many people who are not sympathetic to calls for PC language, and including accusations of "insane chauvinism" isn't going to make them any more palatable.

[jameshart → aninhumer]

And that's the important issue, after all. We need to make sure that people who enjoy sexist language feel welcome in the technology industry and on forums like this, because otherwise we would so rarely get to hear their perspective.

[aninhumer → jameshart]

That depends, do you want to feel smug and righteous, or do you actually want to convince people that what they're doing is harmful?

Being right is not a substitute for being persuasive.

[pdabbadabba → aninhumer]

Fair enough. I agree that the comment could have been more carefully worded. Note, though, that this does not (I hope!) explain the cool reception (to put it mildly) to my own comments in the same vein.

[Kalium → pdabbadabba]

The comment was, well, offensively chauvinist.