I think this is a huge part of the problem. As the article mentions, 'Data from American colleges show 20 per cent of males - the most attractive ones - get 80 per cent of the sex'.
This means, when women are in their early twenties, they're use to being in relationships or hooking up with the most attractive men. Although I hate ratings, let's say men 8-10, are getting together with all the women 5-10. This can't work in the long run, because people partner up 1-1, so those 8-10 men end up married to 8-10 women. What happens with all these women 5-7? They spent their twenties with men 8-10, and now they're left with their equals, men 5-7, so they feel like they're settling, or stepping down. At the same time, men feel like they're dating up, because they never received attention from these women before. Meanwhile, they're equal, but prior history leaves this skewed perspective.
In short, average women in their twenties get attention from great guys. As people begin to settle down, average women are only left with average men, and they're left wondering where all the good men have gone.
This kind of societal screwed-up-ness is exactly what's predicted by those who say that you shouldn't have sex outside of marriage. People get in the habit of hooking up, which sets up unrealistic expectations on both sides. We're losing the ability to have real relationships. Remember that article about how people in Japan "aren't having sex anymore"? The HN comment consensus was, they are, they just don't have lasting relationships, because that's too hard.
People take the easy way out, even if it makes them unhappy later. If you can have sex without being married, that's easier than taking the time to develop a deep relationship, even if you're never really happy.
Of course, nothing will work if people don't have good character, which is really the problem. If people are getting married just to have sex, not because they're prepared to make the sacrifices required by living and working together, then things only get worse. We've instilled an entitlement mentality in lots of people, and we're reaping the results.
Anyway, if you wanted to know why premarital sex is considered immoral in most major religions (the big 3 monotheistic ones, anyway), you're watching it, live.
I mostly agree with you, but I think you missed one step. The 5-7 women wont just immediately start dating their own "tier". They will swarm the 7-men. Those were the once we read about in the article: Men who used to be ignored, but now gets attention from loads of women. Eventuelly it will balance out, but not before the "slightly more attrative than average" men take advantage of the situation.
I think there's a fundamental asymmetry in the dating 'market' which doesn't require the depressing exercise of assigning everyone a number.
Young women generally will only date men her age or older. So for example a 22 yo woman would date men in the large pool between 22 and 30. Meanwhile the 22 yo man doesn't have much opportunity to date older or younger. However, when the woman hits 30, the situation has reversed and the 'marriageable' men in her pool are dating younger women.
Whether someone is a '5' or an '8' isn't necessarily an inherit characteristic and has a lot to do with their life circumstances.
I tried clicking the little white boxes, thinking they were tooltips, explaining how that part of the image used a particular Pixelmator feature.
Then I realized it was just a screenshot, so I clicked free trial. Same image, but now no site navigation (it doesn't fade in). Refreshed, thinking it was broken. Then it took a few seconds, but I realized you could scroll down, and it had a download button. Why is this so common these days? Full screen images or giant headers filling the screen with no indication of more content? I've had this happen a few times this year. I also just noticed this happens on the homepage too, and it has actual information under the giant screenshot. Sigh, doesn't anyone test these things?
Same here, I've been watching bitcoin for a while, and thought about tossing a few hundred dollars at it to play around with the technology, and to leave a couple of coins in case it catches on over time. However, the process looks like a nightmare.
I expect things to be instant. Why can't I buy a few bitcoins with my credit card and have them in my account within the next few minutes? Why do I need to go through this lengthy verification process? Why are there countless complaints about people having difficulties converting bitcoins back into dollars? I understand a lot of this is outside of bitcoin's control, but with these kind of hoops to jump through, I can't see it ever catching on. I expected more, and the entire thing feels unpolished and amateur. When people recommend using craigslist or ebay, dealing with random strangers and paying a 25% premium just to get a simple coin, it's a failure.
Red, I use #3. Green, I use #5. Blue, I do #8 at the front, #7 towards the back. Then, after that, I use the inbetween numbers. So I use a #4, and smooth out the transition from red to green. Then I use a #6, and smooth out from green to blue.
To finish, thinning sheers. They're basically magic. I have thick hair, so I just clip all over the place at different lengths, and it blends everything together nicely.
The neckline is difficult to get straight. I'm finally able to do it with a few mirrors, but it's a lot easier if you have someone else that can take 10 seconds for you.
I just use some clippers by Wahl, and they've always worked fine. Cleanup takes the most time. Watch a few YouTube videos to get a better idea, and pick a forgiving time to cut your hair as a first attempt. If all goes wrong, you can just buzz it, or wear a hat for a week.
Why do you need investors? Is a lack of funds holding you back at the moment? I run a site with 6 million uniques a year, and half a million registered users. I do it alone.
Investors sounds like a headache. Right now my site pays for itself, and my life. If I want to take a month long vacation, I go on vacation. If I had an investor, I go back to having a regular job, and answering to someone else. That has very little appeal to me.
This works in my situation because my project is fairly polished at this point, and the content is entirely user driven, so I simply work on sorting out the occasion bug, managing the servers, and carefully planning the direction to take the site, and features to develop. More money, more offices, more employees wouldn't bring anything to the table, aside from more stress. If you have a project that needs people out there selling, that needs people writing content, that needs more developers, or that needs more capital, then maybe you do need an investor. This isn't always the case though.
The reason I'd like investors is to bring on more content creators. At this point I don't need them, but in the future I know this will become overwhelming so I'm thinking ahead.
I was astonished to hear what my friend paid his content writers (on a millions/month user celebrity gossip site)... let's just say it's around minimum wage.
You don't need a VC for that, even if your topic takes a bit more edification.
1. Someone posted a project to Reddit. It gained a lot of up votes, and tons of comments about people liking the concept. I thought I could do it better, and so, I did, blowing this other site out of the water within weeks. My site became the best in that untapped market, and now it sits there for years making me a living through passive income. The original site from the Redditor closed years ago.
2. After an unexpected announcement in the entertainment industry, some doors opened for a new market. I worked day and night for 2 or 3 days to get a site together over a weekend, and be first to launch. I was... and gained 1,000 members in a matter of hours after opening. Others quickly followed suit, and took my concept, improved on it, and continued to develop it while I didn't have the time. My site faded to zero within a year, their site went on to be a success.
Lessons learned. Be quick to market. Only launch when you have enough lead over the competition, and leave no glaring holes in your project which they can use to overtake you.
As everyone says, it's all about execution. If someone posts an idea, or a project that is gaining traction, and I believe I can do it better, then I'll try. I don't feel bad for stealing an idea, if I make it a success. At the same time, I don't feel bad when others take my ideas. That's competition, I've had all sorts of companies try to develop knockoff sites to the one I mentioned in the first paragraph. None have reached a similar level of success. However, if one manages to take the crown, I wouldn't blame them for stealing the concept, I'd blame myself for running an inferior service.
> Only launch when you have enough lead over the competition, and leave no glaring holes in your project which they can use to overtake you.
I agree that you shouldn't post to Reddit or other public site. But I don't agree you shouldn't "soft launch" and talk with others to quickly refine your idea. Just keep it offline.
Neither of those cases are the situation in which "stealing an idea" comes up. Both projects were launched in public. As soon as any "idea" is proven to be successful in the market, competitors will arise.
In fact, it is a good argument for not being overly secretive or demanding a 10-page NDA. As soon as you launch, your idea is public anyway, and you are better off telling about it to advisors/investors/developers to give you a better chance at succeeding.
Exactly. I did something similar a couple of years ago. I saw a great idea on a marketing forum, came out with something better, and now make a living from it.
The original poster has moved on from it.
Talking about any great idea in a public forum will bring competition. If that competition has more resources than you, they may even beat you to market. This is why I don't talk about any of my ideas like this.
This means, when women are in their early twenties, they're use to being in relationships or hooking up with the most attractive men. Although I hate ratings, let's say men 8-10, are getting together with all the women 5-10. This can't work in the long run, because people partner up 1-1, so those 8-10 men end up married to 8-10 women. What happens with all these women 5-7? They spent their twenties with men 8-10, and now they're left with their equals, men 5-7, so they feel like they're settling, or stepping down. At the same time, men feel like they're dating up, because they never received attention from these women before. Meanwhile, they're equal, but prior history leaves this skewed perspective.
In short, average women in their twenties get attention from great guys. As people begin to settle down, average women are only left with average men, and they're left wondering where all the good men have gone.