I do believe that "success" is entirely subjective. For some people getting a full time job in the local factory is a huge achievement and the stability of that income does wonders for a family unit.
For others nothing short of passing university with a first and jetting off to a glittering career is called success.
For this reason I never judge anyone anymore. The human condition means they are probably doing their absolute best to get by!
And when you consider the type of owner (Who gives a toss they are only students landlord) are they ever going to upgrade to a normal system let alone nest.
When you think about it this product is so badly thought out on every level!
I'd love to see these British houses with "No thermostat and you can't control anything".
Every house i've ever lived in has has not just a main thermostat but most have thermostatic vales on the radiators too!
I'm 31 now and have lived in lots of houses both brand new and old victorian. They do realise it's customary to modernise older houses after a while don't they? Maybe not!
Talk about inventing a a problem that no one actually has!!!
I've been renting in London for the last 7 years, and in 7 different flats. Roughly half of those places had thermostats, and they were usually poorly placed. In all but one of the houses, the valves on the radiators had been removed (the handles at least), so it was pretty much impossible to control the temperature room-by-room. Have one flatmate who likes a cold room and another who likes a hot room? Tough luck.
Stephen Lawrence would probably disagree with you.
The basic upshot of this story is to keep your contact with the Police brief, friendly and say no more than you need to.
The Police have been doing this to black people, gay people and other minorities for years, it's actually quite ironic that the Stonewall riots happened in San Fran too.
All that's happened this time is a well off, straight, white chap has realised just how hard life gets when you're treated as a minority.
I hope he gets his day in court and if the story is true they will sort the copper out and pay some compensation to him.
As someone who likes a smoke (Weed & Cigarettes) and is currently trying to lead a healthier life I feel your pain buddy!
Have you ever tried just cutting down? Even just a little bit? I don't believe in this "Just stop and never drink again" rubbish I think it has to be done in baby steps.
Anyway, hope you're okay and whatever you do don't go the religion route. It's a dangerous path to tread especially with the types who run these things.
Not sure about that. I gave up smoking 10 years ago and the only way (after giving up 100's of times before) was to give up, grit my teeth and sit it out. Otherwise you're just prolonging the agony.
Your brain lies to you to try and get you to smoke so that it can get it's nicotine fix...
I agree. It is also important to avoid the pseudoscience in the scientific establishment though; for example, the entire psychiatric manual has been thoroughly discredited in the 70s, but that is not communicated openly.
it's good that aa uses the 'god as you understand him' which most people just use that as meaning 'something outside yourself'. its a way to have a consciousness shift and perception change away from negative self talk and see reality as it is not as you interpret it. it can be religious for some, it can just be 'the great unknown' for others. really makes no difference. just that theres something other than your own mind telling you the answers in your head with great authority. its really just a mind trick/hack to get out of a thought loop that leads to harm.
>it's good that aa uses the 'god as you understand him' which most people just use that as meaning 'something outside yourself'.
Have you read the AA "big book?" If you have it is very clear it refers to the Judeo-Christian God with many quotes from the Bible. Its section on non-believers is completely offensive (to me). It basically says "accept god or die."
it does explicitly say god as you understand him - but i do know what you mean. its a shame that get's in the way for you tho, as there are alot of tools in there that if put to use - does provide alot of relief - alot more than drugs and alcohol provide.
"if that be the case, you may be
suffering from an illness which only a spiritual experi-
ence will conquer. To one who feels he is an atheist or agnostic such an experience seems impossible, but to continue as he is means disaster, especially if he is an alcoholic of the hopeless variety. To be doomed to an alcoholic death or to live on a spiritual basis are not always easy alter natives to face.
But it isn’t so difficult. About half our original
fellowship were of exactly that type. At first some of
us tried to avoid the issue, hoping against hope we
were not true alcoholics. But after a while we had to
face the fact that we must find a spiritual basis of life
—or else. Perhaps it is going to be that way with you.
But cheer up, something like half of us thought we
were atheists or agnostics. Our experience shows that
you need not be disconcerted."
That's a paragraph not a 'section to unbelievers'. The chapter is titled "We Agnostics". Theism, agnosticism, and spirituality are not synonymous. It's sad that you find AA to be such a threat that you created an account exclusively to 'refute' the comments in this thread with vitriol and militant secularism.
> It's sad that you find AA to be such a threat that you created an account exclusively to 'refute' the comments in this thread with vitriol and militant secularism.
What are you talking about? My account is 254 days ago with 1658 karma.
I am not using "militant secularism", I am presenting AA as it is, a religious organization. People like to pretend it isn't one. AA can and does work for a lot of people. That is good! It also doesn't work for a lot of people. The only thing I object to is saying AA is a cure-all or saying AA is the only game in town when it comes to addiction.
Religion isn't the cure for everyone. That's all I am saying. Some people will get behind it and it works very well for them. Some people will find it vial. We are all different.
I've been paying the ~$20/month for awhile now. I'm totally happy with that, and I don't think that's an unreasonable expense, especially if you're using it professionally.
Like has been said it's easy to get to and worth the trip if you're into the history of computer science.
I went a year ago and it was very inspirational and the perfect antidote to startup BS and all that NSA stuff. Around the time i went i was reading a book about the history of cryptography and it was great linking everything together!
It's just a shame Alan was treated the way he was although the letter from Gordon Brown PM in the main museum is definitely worth a look for any LGBT history guru!
It's all changed since a year ago. Bletchley guides are no longer allowed to show you the computers, you have to buy tickets specifically for the National Computer Museum
For others nothing short of passing university with a first and jetting off to a glittering career is called success.
For this reason I never judge anyone anymore. The human condition means they are probably doing their absolute best to get by!