Hacker News new | past | comments | ask | show | jobs | submit login

Honestly, not much would be missed if this is your attitude to things that don't work exactly the way you want them to.

I'd hazard a guess that your friends are more likely 'acquaintances' or 'hangout buddies' (nothing wrong with that) than friends. I know what all of my friends do in life (and it's a diverse mix, from trauma docs to people who work for the governor to self-made day traders to senior management at IT multi-nationals) and, perhaps surprisingly to you, we are able to balance work as a minor conversation topic from time to time.

But phrases such as 'stupid', 'predictable', 'irrelevant', 'annoying', 'bland' only give off the perception of you as having quite the superiority complex, haughtily sniffing down your nose at anyone deigning to disagree.

Why? For we are not our jobs. But as we move through our lives, particularly beyond that first job or two, the kind of person we might be, our wants and desires are not defined, but least elucidated at by how we choose to spend a quarter of our lives.




Contrary to your guess, this approach has brought far higher quality and more intimate relationships into my life. You'd be surprised how immediately rejecting what you anticipate will bother you results in the void being filled by what will add to your life.

If someone is still in a phase of their life where the first question out of their mouth is "what do you do for a living," they can find other friends. There are a lot of people in this world - no need for me to waste my time with ones who follow routine social interaction protocols. Suggesting this is elitist is a little silly. We are all elitists. There are 7 billion people in this world - we choose who we spend our time, and always reject others. Not actively making that choice is a recipe for an unfulfilling and frustrating existence.

I'm not saying you shouldn't know what your friends do, only that I don't want relationships where my first impression or their first impression is based on employment.




Guidelines | FAQ | Lists | API | Security | Legal | Apply to YC | Contact

Search: