On: The Surreal Magnificence of Fatherhood

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One does the best one can. But I guess "intentionally detaching" doesn't convey the best.

Even ignoring the extra work for the mother or whoever is actually providing the care, this conscious decision is not cost free for the future of the relationship with the child. It makes it harder to straighten the ship later.

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> this conscious decision is not cost free for the future of the relationship with the child

Same for the relationship with the wife, they remember.