On: Ask HN: What people skills do you wish you learned...

[nothrabannosir]

Alternatively, it is possible to be yourself while still caring a great deal about what other people think, but not letting it influence your behaviour. Only your emotions.

I think “not caring what others think” gets too much credit, honestly. It’s fine to care, because that also brings joy, for example I bet your uncle was damn proud that you liked him so much for whom he was :) that only works if you care. Which I’m sure he did.

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable in public is a laudable skill.

[barking → nothrabannosir]

Thank you, yes he definitely had people he cared about and I was lucky enough to one.

but not letting it influence your behaviour. Only your emotions

That sounds really really hard!

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable in public is a laudable skill.

Absolutely, it requires a lot of courage imo.